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ARTArticleDr. Romance Video: Reluctant to Marry AgainTo view the video, click here.
Video: Dear Dr. Romance , I'm reluctant to get married again.
When a relationship that probably began in hope and joy has ended in failure, grief and pain, It's very understandable to be conce
ed about repeating an action that was so hurtful. Here are some Happiness Tips for recovering from divorce.
Dr. Romance’s 3 tips for letting go of the pain of divorceARTArticleDr. Romance Video: Resolving Couple Fights over FinancesClick Here for Video
Dr. Romance on MONEY TALKS
Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another.ARTArticleDr. Romance Video: Why does my husband insist on being right?Dr. Romance video, click here for video
When your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation.
As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he or she wishes, you are free to focus your attention on solving the problem for yourself.ARTArticleDr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You WantThere are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make your marriage work.
1. Exaggerate your want.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Bored with your Sex Life?Put Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring
Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media 2008)" offers tips to improve intimacy with your mate.
Q: Sometimes I feel sexually excited, but I don't always feel desire for my husband...In other words, I'd rather take things into my own hands. Does this mean there's something wrong or missing from our relationship?ARTArticleDr. Romance: Boundaries with your Ex - Tips to Help if your Ex is Doing Things that Make You Feel Used, ResentfulARTArticleDr. Romance: Divorce-Proof your MarriageFor Adult Children of Divorce, 3 Tips for a Better Marriage than your Parents Had
If you're an adult child of divorce in a marriage that's been struggling, you can learn good marriage-building skills to keep your relationship from going the divorce route. Here are three tips to help:
1. View your parents as examples of what not to do.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Does your relationship need a spring cleaning?Dr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage:
Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular weekly talks (I call them State of the Union discussions) keep the problems minor, the resentment level down, and the communication open, so that there is time and space for intimacy.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Ending your MarriageRelationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce
As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go:
1. Your partner keeps going out of bounds.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Finding your Next SpouseYou're divorced and ready to look for a new love. Here are three tips to help you as you search for a new partner in life.
1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex?Relationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse
Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex.
1. Choose your battles.
One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore that problem and save it for a bigger one. Don’t get into adversarial positions with your ex when it’s not necessary. Even if he or she drives you crazy, don’t become oppositional. Save your energy for the big issues.
2. Don’t react, respond.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Is your Partner too Selfish?Relationships: Tips to Recognize if your Partner is Emotionally Abusive
Ever look around at who stays married, and who doesn't? Overweight people far outnumber the thin and beautiful in successful marriages. The svelte and attractive get far more dates, but don't seem as able to close the deal. Perhaps it's because the thicker daters aren't as narcissistic, or maybe they just settle for less.ARTArticleDr. Romance: It’s a Dirty JobDr. Romance writes:
Richard and I have been married since 1982 It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth it. In the first year of our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband a card. On the front it said, "I love you", many times, and inside it said, "It's a dirty job, but someone has to do it." That phrase has carried us through many difficult times since. We have kept our love alive, and the joy of this relationship carries us through the rest of life.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Make your Marriage WorkRelationships: Three Tips to Getting your Marriage Back on Track
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help.
1. Don’t hold a grudge.
Talk about what’s bothering you in a rational way. Ask clearly for what you want, and let your partner know why it’s important to you. If you can’t find a way to agree, go for a counseling session. Resentment will destroy your marriage – for the price of one session, before the problem gets too large, you can save it.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - How to Stay In Touch When You Barely See Each OtherIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you actually get to spend very little waking time together.ARTArticleDr. Romance: Spouse's ChildInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child
It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child.
1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive.ARTArticleDr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your MarriageWant to make sure your relationship is a success? Here are ten ways to bring the sparkle back and keep it going.
Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your MarriageARTArticleDr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true loveDr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love:ARTArticleDr. Romance's Guidelines for Not FightingFighting a lot? Dr. Romance recommends:ARTArticleDreams About Your Ex Girlfriend? Seeing Your Ex Girlfriend In A Dream Could Be A SignYou have just experienced a relationship break up and now feel a sense of annoyance, bitte
ess and fault. Dreams about your ex girlfriend; It's making you unhappy and you keep thinking about how you can get your girlfriend to come back to you.
Seeing your ex girlfriend in a dream could be a sign you want to get back together; A complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up, meanwhile let's build the foundation.ARTArticleEmotions as WeatherAlthough most people in the country wouldn't agree, we in Southern Califo
ia have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we're so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call "real" weatherweather wimps.ARTArticleEnabling v EmpoweringAll parents want their kids to feel good about themselves and at the same time develop inner resources so that they can make good responsible choices when you are not around to guide them.
The distinction that I would like to draw on in this newsletter is enabling v empowering.ARTArticleEssence of Readiness by Susan SheppardAre you really ready for a relationship?
So often I hear, I want a boyfriend, I’m married but I’m not happy. I just got divorced and I don’t want to make the same mistake again. When will I find someone? It occurred to me recently that in order to be in a relationship that works, it’s necessary to be ready to enter one. I know that sounds really simple, but if we look at our national divorce rate, you can see that it is not simple. In fact, I seriously doubt that many people consider their readiness for marriage or relationship of any sort.ARTArticleFair Fight GuidelinesThirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don't need to squabble, argue, bicker or fight. Fights are dramatic, which is not helpful to a discussion. If you have enough energy to create drama, you have more than enough to tone it down into a discussion.ARTArticleFamily Violence Q&AQ: My spouse and I often have arguments over the small stuff. How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering?ARTArticleForgiving Your Parents: An Excerpt from the BookHere is an excerpt from the book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage”
A life-altering conversatio
Only about a month later I would have a conversation with my friend Kent that would change my life forever. I call this day the most important day of my life. I had an epiphany.
My plan with buying a house was to find roommates to help with the mortgage payments. I had done this in Virginia. I had two roommates which made my mortgage payments quite low. In Dallas I convinced Kent to move in one of the two spare bedrooms I had.ARTArticleFour Secrets To A Happy MarriageSave Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps
Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage.
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other.rARTArticleFour Steps to SuccessARTArticleFriends With BenefitsIf you're thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple.
• If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, the friendship will probably not survive.
• If you've done it before, and you know you can keep your feelings in check, you might be successful, but what about your friend? Are you sure he or she is aware of his or her own feelings and motives?ARTArticleFrom Struggling to SolvingHealthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how certain things in life should be handled, and so does your partner; and we all tend to assume everyone, especially a person who loves us, will see it our way.