Category

Love & Relationships

Browse the love & relationships library by topic first, then narrow into articles, websites, videos, or events.

Topics

Love & Relationships Topics

Like the legacy category pages, start with the full topic folder list. The selected lane controls where each topic opens.

View Love & Relationships experts

Everything37,462Browse the category resource library Articles31,550Read expert articles and newsletters Websites5,912Browse recommended websites and resources Videos0Watch category videos Events0Find upcoming sessions and events

Topic clicks are currently scoped to Everything. Choose Articles, Websites, Videos, or Events to open that resource type for every topic below.

Everything

Love & Relationships Resources

Browse a compact directory list below, or use the topic folders above for a focused legacy-style path.

30 resources

ARTArticleUsing The Law Of Attraction to Change Your LifeThose who suggest that the Law of Attraction is simply wishful thinking without any real effort are misguided. The things you want most in life, such as material success or just plain happiness, can be achieved with the Law of Attraction, but you've got to do your part. Consistently using the Law of Attraction to achieve your goals can be challenging. Here are some helpful tips that might help you use the Law of Attraction more effectively. Making the Law of Attraction Stronger with Positive Thinking ARTArticleWhat's Wrong with Being Busy?Two different clients recently asked me this question. On the surface, their stories were very different. Janel is a dedicated stay-at-home mom who spends a lot of time cooking from scratch and volunteering at her children's schools. But she barely has time for a morning shower, let alone a relaxed conversation with her husband. Matt is a software developer who works typically long hours at a startup. He's smart and talented and is making a respectable salary, but rarely does he spend a weekend with his girlfriend exploring the city or hiking in the hills.ARTArticleWhere Complaints Come FromLet's start with what counts as a complaint. If you tell your doctor about your headache, for example, that's not a complaint. That's because there's a good chance your doctor can help. So here's the definition: a complaint is talking about something you don't like to someone who can't help. Complaints are often well-intended. Some of the reasons people complain are: • To connect. It's a way of showing that we're all in the same boat, so to speak. Shared suffering creates feelings of solidarity. The intent is to offer emotional support. “Yeah, my drive was awful too.”ARTArticleYour Life Could Use Law Of AttractionBy creating our own reality, thoughts, experiences, and whatever, we attract them into our lives and this is the main idea behind the Law of Attraction. If you know how to use the Law of Attraction properly, you can decrease stress and attract abundance into your life. The Law of Attraction has been around for thousands of years but has become recently popular due to our modern media (movies like “The Secret”). This guide will show you more. 1. Create a list of things you want to change in your life ARTArticleYour Obnoxious Tenant!You manage a beautiful apartment complex, but there’s trouble in paradise. One of your tenants is causing problems. This has been going on for a while now, years even, but you’re so used to his crazy antics, you’ve learned to live with him. This tenant constantly: • Invades your privacy. • Calls you names & makes you second-guess yourself; “You’re so stupid! Why did you say that?” • Doesn’t have any confidence in you and lets you know it. “I doubt you’ll be able to do that! Why even try?”r ARTArticleYour Pick Me Up . . . It's You!Ever had one of those days? You know . . . a day where everything seems to go wrong? You break the coffee pot, step on a piece of glass while cleaning it up; are late for work because of the huge line at the gas station; hit every red light, and miss the green one because the driver in front of you was too busy texting. We've all had one of those days. And when we do, our attention seems to stay fixated on whatever bad is going on—a stubbed toe, a rude comment, a fearful thought, etc. Yes, these are all inconveniences, even painful at times. But there is good news!ARTArticle"Why Are My Partners Always Needy?"Angelo had been married to Serena for 15 years before divorcing. In his marriage, Angelo was a caretaker, always trying to please Serena, always trying to get her approval and avoid her disapproval. Serena was a taker - handing responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him when he didn't do what she wanted. Inside, Serena was deeply insecure, too insecure to even work, so she completely relied on Angelo financially. Angelo felt very lonely in his marriage, which is what led to his decision to divorce.ARTArticle"Why Won't my Partner Have Sex With Me?"I have worked with individuals and couples for the past 42 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?" Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn't want to have sex.ARTArticle*** Over-Talking: The Need to Talk Too MuchAre you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this. I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that I don't enjoy sharing with others, but there is a big difference between sharing and the over-talking that comes from not listening to yourself.ARTArticle*** When It's Loving To Share Your Feelings…And When It's NotHow often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive? How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just sharing my feelings!"ARTArticle***"If Only You Would Get What You Are Doing!"Is your relationship stuck in a pattern of blame where you both feel like victims of the other person?ARTArticle***ACCADEMIC SUCCESS IN TEENS IS EQUAL TO THEIR ABILITY TO SEE THE FUTUREJason, 14 is like most male adolescents. He is into video games, hockey, and, of course, hanging with his friends. If you ask him the classic question adults love to ask teens, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Jason will reply, "I don't know—maybe a lawyer or an engineer."ARTArticle***Addictions: Talking as a Form of ResistanceI am sitting with Bryan at one of my 5-Day Inner Bonding Intensives. Bryan is talking about one thing after another, and I cannot follow him at all. Nor can I connect with him. My loneliness in sitting with him is giving me important information - that he is in his head, in his wounded self, protecting against his feelings and responsibility for his feelings. "Bryan, would you be willing to take a deep breath and put your focus into your heart?"ARTArticle***Am I in a Healthy Relationship?Frequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?" Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different criteria regarding what constitutes health. For example, some people say they are very healthy if they get a cold or flu a few times a year, while others' health criteria is that they never get sick at all.ARTArticle***Anger And Other Forms of ControlIf you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line and have control over you? How did you respond? - You complied, trying to be the good little girl or boy and do what your parents wanted, hopeful that they wouldn't get angry so often.ARTArticle***Are You Caring or Caretaking?Caring = giving to another from love, for the joy of it - as a free gift Caretaking = giving to get love, giving with an agenda attached, giving yourself up Even though the actions of caring and the actions of caretaking might look exactly the same, the intention is totally different, so the energy of the actions is also completely different.ARTArticle***Are You Playing Too Small?Are you limiting your life – allowing fear to stop you from doing what brings you joy?ARTArticle***Are You Stuck in One-Way RelationshipsDo you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn't want to listen to you? ________________________________________ One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard. This is the issue that Ginger wrote to me about.ARTArticle***Are You The Person Your Dog Thinks You Are?Your pet knows the truth of who you are! Many of us know how unconditionally loving most dogs naturally are – unless they have been abused. Even if you don't have a dog, you've likely seen the joy they express when their person comes home after being gone for even a few minutes. If you have a dog or another pet who loves you, what would your pet say about you if he or she could talk? Take a moment to imagine what your pet would say.ARTArticle***Can We Run Out Of Love?Is your experience of love that it is scarce and limited? "Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared. ~Chinese Proverb ARTArticle***Core Sadness vs. Wounded SadnessVery often, in my work with my clients, when I ask them what they are feeling they say, "I feel sad." Often, they do not know why they feel sad. Sadness comes from two very different sources. Core Sadness Core sadness is sadness that is in reaction to something that is happening or has happened exte ally. Many life situations can cause sadness, such as:ARTArticle***Do You Believe You Are Worthy of Love?Do you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it? Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my clients. Do you find yourself in resistance to receiving love – from a person or from Spirit? Are you in resistance to learning to love yourself?ARTArticle***Do You Compare Yourself to Others?________________________________________ How often do you feel one-up or one-down in comparison to others? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, did your parents compare you to others? Were you compared to siblings or other family members? Did your parents compare you to your friends or classmates? Did you have teachers who compared you to other students? Did you have friends who compared you to other friends? Most of us grew up being compared to others, which creates a sense of being one-up or one-down – neither of which is healthy.ARTArticle***Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior?ARTArticle***Do You Have Trouble Making Decisions?Does the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision?ARTArticle***Do You Know How To Love?________________________________________ Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love. ________________________________________ We read many things about what love is and what it isn't to help us understand love. But love is not something we can understand from our mind. Until we experience it, we don't actually know what it is or how to experience it in our lives. Is it love when a parent allows a baby to cry and cry, to get them on a schedule or get them to sleep? No!ARTArticle***Do You Make People Up?By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. ________________________________________ Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships? ________________________________________ “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” —Anais Nin A variation on the above quote might be, "We don't see people as they are - we see them as we want them to be."ARTArticle***Do You Put Pressure on Yourself?______________________________________ Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness. ________________________________________ How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this pressure? How often do you have trouble sleeping because you feel so pressured?r ARTArticle***Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy. "Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of mind." Mindsight, P.155 Daniel Siegel, M.D.ARTArticle***Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others?________________________________________ Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully? ________________________________________ Louise asked me:

Page 120 of 1,249