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ARTArticle***Loneliness versus Solitude________________________________________
Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences.
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"Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone, and the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone." –Benjamin Tillett
I find this quote very interesting in the light of recent research on introversion and extroversion.ARTArticle***My Husband is Not Sexual________________________________________
Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone!
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In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him about this many times in non-threatening ways, but his lack of enthusiasm toward sex makes it very difficult to engage myself when he finally does get around to feeling sexual. We have zero intimacy mentally and very little physically."rARTArticle***Overweight and Miserable________________________________________
Are you tired of being overweight and food addicted? There is a way to heal.
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Pamela writes this question for my webinar on food addiction:ARTArticle***Relationships: Cheating"Why would my boyfriend cheat on me?"
"I'm pretty sure my wife is cheating on me. I want to know why."
"I know that my husband has been cheating on me for years. I don't get why he does this."
Why do people cheat on their partners? Why do others have affairs that their partners know about?
Here are some of the reasons for cheating that I have encountered in my many years of counseling.ARTArticle***Staying Centered in Conflict________________________________________
Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this.
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Angela writes:ARTArticle***The Art of Conversation________________________________________
Do you have mostly one-way or two-way conversations? What kind of conversationalist are you?
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What happens in your conversations with people? The kind of conversation you have with someone says a lot about both you and them.
There are mainly two kinds of conversations: one-way conversations and two-way conversations.
One-Way ConversationsARTArticle***The Art of Setting BoundariesDiscover what a boundary is and what it isn't.
Merilee wrote the following question to me in one of my relationship webinars:
"Hi Dr. Paul -- One of my biggest struggles is being open to giving and receiving love, but also setting boundaries. I want to be loving, not controlling, but I don't want people to say or treat me in ways that I don't like. How to reconcile?"ARTArticle***The Challenge of ConflictDo you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work!ARTArticle***The Difference betwee
Daydreaming and ImaginingOur imagination is a great gift - a connection with our Divine Source - when we use it from an inwardly connected loving Adult to create the life we want.ARTArticle***The Foundation for Abundance________________________________________
Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self?
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"Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance."~Eckhart Tolle, Author of The Power of Now
How often do you feel genuinely grateful for what you have in your life?
There is a big difference between acting grateful and feeling genuine gratitude in your heart.ARTArticle***The Key to a Great RelationshipThis will not be new news to you - however, please keep reading. The Key to a Great Relationship is Authenticity - read on to know what I mean by this.ARTArticle***The Terror that Triggers Protective Behaviors________________________________________
Do you know what triggers you and why?
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Have you ever found yourself suddenly feeling angry or scared or shut down when a moment ago you were feeling fine?
People or situations can trigger us into rage, anger, blame, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal, numbness, dissociation, explaining, complaining, lecturing, righteousness and so on. These triggered feelings are generally attached to previous traumatic events, such as:
• Abuse – emotional, physical and/or sexualrARTArticle***When is it Helpful to Apologize?"When it is helpful to apologize?" asked Patricia, a client of mine, in one of our phone sessions. Her husband, Brent, often expected her to apologize and she was confused about when it was appropriate.
The answer to this question is a little complex, because there are two different reasons that people apologize:ARTArticle***Where Did The Passion Go?Do you love your partner but find that the intensity and intimacy have become muted? Discover why.
Patti asked the following question in one of my webinars on sexuality:ARTArticle***Why Do People Kill?We need to resolve the violence in our society. I'm offering a few ideas regarding the issues we need to research and address.
Why? Why are these horrible killings happening?
I don't pretend to know the answers, but I do have some ideas that I want to share with you. I believe there are many issues that we need to attend to as a society.ARTArticle10 Steps to a New You in the New YearWelcome to 2013… Can we all let out a sigh of relief? Relief because the belief that the world was going to end in December 2012 has finally been released, and we can start looking at this new age for what it is. It is a new chapter and a new beginning. However, this beginning is not really new, it’s just gaining more traction. Conscious minds have been coming together for years now, and as the momentum grows we continue to impact the whole as well as other individuals looking for their inner truth.
The new age and the New Year are opportunities to redefine your relationship with you.ARTArticle10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 1)I know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her money with interest in only two short months. When she told her friend what she had done her friend pointed out that she had a small child to feed, and reminded her she had just lost her job—and, incidentally, two other boyfriends just like this one.ARTArticle10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2)Being alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful relationship but with no luck, we've decided being with someone isn't the healthiest thing for us. All these are perfectly good reasons for not being in a relationship. Most of us need to take time in our lives to seek out why we act the way we do, and to get to truly know ourSELVES!ARTArticle10 Ways to Get Back into the School RoutineCome on, admit it. You intended to keep a schedule this summer, but when the kids slept in you liked the extra quiet time. Then the daylight lasted so long it was often later than you realized when the kids finally hit the sack. Not living by the clock was a refreshing change of pace, but school will be starting in a few weeks and you know the kids and you need to get back into the groove.
First, let me assure you, it's healthier to have a flexible schedule than a rigid one. So have no guilt about your summer schedule.ARTArticle3 Lethal Dating Flaws that Doom Your Dating Life Plus What You Can Do to Correct ThemMistake #1
Not being in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS!
Men can’t find you if you hide every night at home snuggled up with your beloved cat or dog reading your book or watching one of your favorite TV shows like “Dancing with the Stars” or “Glee.” You need exposure to men whether in person or online, but if you’re afraid to put yourself out there, no one is going to know you’re even available.
Instead:rARTArticle3 Reasons Why You're Still Single - Reason #1: You Believe Love Will Just HappenYou’re happy with the direction your career is going, and that’s great! You’re in good shape, excellent health, and have a wonderful circle of friends: awesome! Do you still find yourself wondering why you haven’t caught the train that will bring true love into your life?rARTArticle3 Reasons Why You're Still Single - Reason #2: You're Unknowingly Limiting Your LifestyleIf you are a strong, successful woman who’s been lacking a healthy, fulfilling relationship, chances are there are a few reasons why you may feel like you’re still single.
Limiting beliefs — beliefs you hold from the past that are limiting your present life and lifestyle — are some of the biggest reasons why people don’t get what they want. If you find yourself successful in some areas in life (like your career) but not so successful in others (like LOVE), you may need to step back and think about the reasons you think you might be single.rARTArticle3 Reasons Why You’re Still Single – Reason #3: You’re Too Busy!We know you’re really busy, and we get it: you work a ton, have 200-plus emails to answer before noon, can barely fit in time to see your girlfriends, and already wake up at o’dark thirty to hit the gym. When it comes to dating, you feel like you may be single forever due to your stacked schedule. After all, online dating itself takes hours and going to meet men over coffee every weekend is something that seems an absolute, total waste of time!
Sound familiar?rARTArticle4 Easy Steps to Improving ResultsStep Oner
Answer this question honestly and with as much clarity and detail as possible:
What is it that you really want?
If you are having a difficult time with this question then write down on one side of a piece of paper what you do not want or what is happening in your life right now that you want to change.
On the other side right down what you would rather see happening instead. Once you have a list of what you want tear the paper in half and throw away the piece that lists your ‘don’t wants’.ARTArticle5 Myths ABout On-Line DatingMyth #1: You won't find attractive, successful people on online dating sitesARTArticle5 Things to Never Say to a WomanIf you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics:
1) “Relax”
You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — in our minds, you’re telling us that what we’re upset about really isn’t a big deal. The thing to remember here?ARTArticle5 Ways to Improve Your Social Life As an AdultEvery milestone in your life comes with meeting new people. As you get older, it can be harder to make and maintain friendships than it was when you were a kid. As a child, you were probably surrounded by peers at school day after day. Perhaps you were involved in activities where you could easily connect with friends who had similar interests. Merely playing together at recess was likely enough for you to foster the roots of a long lasting friendship.ARTArticle6 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Man1) “We Need to Talk.”
Nothing puts up a guy’s defenses faster than those four little words. Why? No woman ever says , “We need to talk — I’ve been thinking you should play golf more often.” or “We need to talk — my hot supermodel friend is going to spend bikini season in our spare bedroom.” Guys associate we need to talk with trouble ahead.
What to do? If you do need to talk, just start right in.ARTArticle6 Ways to Guide Your Child's Moral CharacterIn today’s technical world of computers and virtual reality where our children are socially interacting with video games, myspace, facebook and twitter real action takes a back seat to virtual action.ARTArticle7 Give-Away Signs He Wants a RelationshipSometimes it can be hard to tell just what your new man is looking for. If you’ve just started dating, and things are going great, you can begin to collect data to determine if he is Mr. Quality Casual, or is actually at a place in his life that he wants a relationship. Learn how to recognize the seven give-away signs he wants a relationship so you can find lasting love and partnership:r