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Are We Aging or Just Beginning the Next Act in Our Play of Life At age 50, Jane Fonda said, “I’m not getting old I’m just starting Act III in a beautiful love story with myself and its future”. Unfortunately most of us feel we are stage left 15 rows back, sitting directly behind someone who ...

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The “Me” Brand We were taught all through the 80s and 90s to say, “we” and “us” before “I”. It was all about giving credit to your peers before yourself. But, by doing this how were we supposed to stand out, above and beyond the rest? You didn’t and if you did try you were considered ...

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So it’s been a few months since you made those New Year resolutions and how many are still a daily priority? Probably not many. Why does this happen? Well, I’m here to tell you a few of the most common mistakes made by folks. But first, let’s learn a bit about where this undelivered over ...

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We were taught all through the 80s and 90s to say, “We” and “Us” before “I”. It was all about giving credit to your peers before yourself. But how were we supposed to stand out above and beyond the rest? You didn’t, and if you did try, you were considered ruthless, untrusting or self ...

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When you hear the stories of the lonely, especially those that have been experiencing loneliness for a long period of time, one thing stands out quite clearly: There is usually no readily available one shot answer to helping them get out of loneliness. Of course, if you ask lonely folks what's the way out of loneliness, I'm sure at least 80% of them would say, finding a romantic partner. That is what most people seem to need, one person who will love and care for them the way no one is currently doing and arguably has done in their past.

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One of the big surprises that happened when I conducted a loneliness intervention program was that lonely people weren’t just your shy, withdrawn, wallflower type, but that lonely people can also be quite outgoing, extroverted, and friendly. Usually the shy, introverted ones feel like the outgoing, extroverted ones would never had felt lonely, when in fact they do experience a great deal of loneliness.

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In the Lonely Quiz on my Web of Loneliness website (http://www.webofloneliness.com), I ask if joining a club is one of the most effective ways of treating individuals who are chronically lonely. Only 34% of the people answered this question correctly. The correct answer for this question is no, joining a club is not a very effective way of treating chronic loneliness.

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If you have take The Lonely Quiz on the Web of Loneliness (http://www.webofloneliness.com/the-lonely-quiz.html), there is one question on there that asks if having a romantic partner is one of the most effective ways of permanently curing loneliness. Not surprisingly, 67% of those answering said that it is true, a romantic partner is an effective way of permanently curing loneliness. And, as you will see after you have answered the question, I said that it is not, in fact, true.

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A recent article just came out by The Express (http://bit.ly/ucA8M5) discussing Esther Rantzen's new mission to raise awareness about loneliness. Esther Rantzen (http://www.estherrantzen.net/) is a TV-star and wife of the late film-maker Desmond Wilcox. What's interesting about Mrs. Rantzen's new focus is the push back she has received from family, friends, and professionals.

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If you have Binge Eating Disorder, you understand the feelings of loneliness. You know what it is like to live in a secret world that no one knows about. You have a big secret, but no one is allowed to see that side of you. At restaurants with friends, you order just the right amount of food ...If you have Binge Eating Disorder, you understand the feelings of loneliness. You know what it is like to live in a secret world that no one knows about. You have a big secret, but no one is allowed to see that side of you.

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I needed to come up with something “catchy” for my book, “AloneAbility: Learning to Embrace Your Aloneness” – so I was thinking about how I tell my readers that they have to be proactive when it comes to their aloneness. You’ve got to plan things out ahead of time; don’t want to be caught home alone with no one to hang out with on a Saturday night or a big holiday weekend or your birthday! So I decided on “Mind your aloneness, if you mind your aloneness.” Get it?

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Relationships are at the core of our human experience. They form our support system and are instrumental to our success and wellbeing. Within a healthy relationship, we can be our true selves. This means that we can share our dreams, goals, and ambitions as well as our fears, conce s, and traumas. The more we open up, the more the friendship has a chance to grow. Falling back on our friendships during tough times is a privilege we all wish for. Similarly, celebrating small victories or major milestones with friends is an ongoing source of joy and is crucial to our wellbeing.

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You know it... That moment where you see that girl and you want to go talk to her. Maybe it's in school, maybe it's at work, maybe it's at the gym.... Who cares where it is! You just want to go talk to her and get her to like you. Right? But the problem is you're too shy to do it. Well I'm gona try to help you out with that by giving you an insight on women that you might not have known before which in turn will help you lower your shyness.

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How many times has it happened in your past where a date didn’t go the way you planned? You planned out a whole romantic evening, you gave it a lot of thought, memorized love quotes for her that you might have used, spent a lot of your time. And surprisingly it went nowhere with the girl. That sucks doesn’t it? What’s worse is she didn’t even seem like she had a great time. So what can you do in this situation? Well, there’s a few things successful guys in dating do that are different.

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Flirting is a language of its own. It doesn’t make sense logically. And most guys fail at it when trying it with women. Often times the girl will give that casual laugh of “yeah nice try”. That direct approach to flirting rarely works, especially if you’re a shy guy. Direct approach of “Hey wana go out for dinner?”

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If you don’t have much experience in the dating field you might make the mistake of believing all women have the same personality types and treat them the same way. Or You might already know that you have to treat different personality types with a unique approach but not know what those approaches are. When you learn about the 5 personality types women have you’ll be able to have better relationships with the kind of woman you want and also know what you’re getting yourself into before investing time and energy.

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Let’s face it. If you have shyness working against you then making conversations can be really tough. But did you know that many great conversations can start from canned material? Meaning its stuff you planned to talk about ahead of time. The problem is knowing what material to talk about to get people interested. Today I’m going to discuss one topic in particular that gets people interested in what you have to say.

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The problem with shyness is it feels like you’ll never overcome it. It takes a grip over you as soon you have to meet people or introduce yourself to someone. And it grips you until the very end of the interaction. To many of us with shyness it feels like an enormous wall that blocks us from meeting and attracting the type of friends we want in our life. When you begin to understand your own shyness, where it comes from and how to deal with it the right way you can start to overcome it and begin having the social lifestyle you always dream about. Shyness is an inte al state.r

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Waiiit STOP Don’t do it! This will save you a lot of humiliation and rejection if you just read this first. Because women talk. And they’ll talk about how you tried to pick up on them to their friends, and if you have the same circle of friends that could mean somewhat of a disaster. Hot Women. They’re almost like a different species. You know they’re hard to get. You know they’ll almost always reject you. And almost always they’ll have an army of guys trying to pick up on them.

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“How do you attract women?” Tell me, what’s the answer? I’m not talking about the politically correct answers like “Ask her out for dinners” or “Tell her how beautiful she is.” That stuff is reserved for people born in the 1920’s More and more women are coming out and admitting that a regular Nice Guy is what has them running for cover and the guy who is a bit more challenging, against the norms and shows her a wild side is found attractive. But let’s talk about the perspective of the average guy.

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“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement. I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is. Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things others did even though on the outside he’s forgiving about it; and these incidents just keep piling up more and more. After reflecting on the question of “Why are they so nice even after being pushed around?” I realized it came down to one factor. That behavior comes from FEAR.

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Yes, there is such a thing. A meditation technique that helps you to overcome shyness. It’s a meditation technique I’ve used for over 6 years and it’s helped me a great deal. If you follow any of my articles or read about me then you know I’ve overcome shyness and gotten to the point where I networked with celebrities, directors etc... and I credit a lot of my success to this one meditation technique.

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Ahh rejection. Rejection is pretty hard on the soul. It can make you feel unwanted, lonely and frustrated. It doesn't matter if you’re the average Joe or a big shot executive. It hurts just the same; and with today’s fast paced society the world can feel extra punishing.

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Yeaaah.. Awkwardness sucks. You know that moment when you realize you slipped up and said or did something wrong...and that feeling of dread comes over you? Or you know you’re supposed to say something in a group but you can’t get yourself to do it...and you know others take notice of it? That’s the worst isn’t it? No matter what, awkwardness can potentially stick to someone like white on rice. Well, I’m going to give you some tips to help make that awkwardness go away. But first, where does awkwardness come from? Why does it happen in the first place?

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So you’re standing at the counter in the grocery store, there’s no one else in line and there’s a really cute girl at the counter. What do you say to start a conversation? Just saying hi usually doesn’t lead anywhere, and if you make it too obvious it’ll be embarrassing if you get rejected. When you can start conversations the right way you can get the girl interested in talking to you and you’ll be able to get her phone number. I’m going to provide you three “Ice Breakers” to start a conversation with a woman.

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The thing is, there really is a difference in how you feel after you overcome shyness. I'm not talking about overcoming shyness where you get bold for a brief moment and then anxiety creeps back in. I'm talking about a full blown recovery where there is no going back. A few years ago I accomplished this and I'm here to tell you what it was like because it might help you too. I got to a point where you just get sick and tired of being painfully shy and decide to start taking massive action.

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Hmm Of course the answer is make new friends right? Especially if you wished you had a more active social life and you’re not social. The reason I’m bringing up this topic is to discuss how we sabotage ourselves when it comes to the social success we want. When you can figure out where in your life you’re holding yourself back from being more social you can start to take action and get the kind of life you want. You see, we have certain mechanisms in our mind that can work against us in the wrong situations.

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Have you ever been in a situation where you get a girl’s number and you think everything went well, but when you get in touch with her she never returns your calls? Suppose she wasn’t a stranger, maybe you met at a barbeque at your friend’s house. Shouldn’t it be easier to get in touch with her since you have mutual friends? Ha! Not so easy. What I’m going to discuss here today is why women never call you back. Once you understand this you’ll have a better chance with her being receptive to you and in turn hopefully you get to meet her a second time.

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So…we might be a little early but I thought I’d add some spark before Valentine’s Day. You see, sometimes the best advice for relationships is to just give plain old love quotes or messages to your loved one. These simple gestures are perfect because it requires little effort and gives your partner a whole lot of good feeling. The following were pulled from a site titled Love Quotes For Him That Are Great

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It is common, even normal, all over the world for the man to be older than the woman in a relationship that usually produces children. Everybody has ideas why and they are probably all near the mark, but what is going on when you see older men dating much younger women? It is not difficult to get bitchy about why they are doing it. This article is about how to date a woman much younger than yourself.

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