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Your Inner Critic Holds the Secret to Your Success Inner Critic Mastery as Revealed in the Scheherazad Story Do you really want to know the secret of your success? I will tell you a secret about yourself that you may not have realized. If only I had known this secret myself when I first started out in life, I would have improved my life and saved myself much suffering. And maybe, because I was young and foolish, I would not have listened. So, YOU be the judge. Will you listen or will you brush it aside and pay no more attention? Behold what you are about to hear!r

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In many organizations, bad managers are rampant. A bad manager can be defined as someone who works solely based on their own emotions and has great problems with employees who often need a more logical, unemotional, and objective leader. They come in all shapes and sizes. These bad traits can be corrected through the proper and consistent application of management skills. Sometimes these bad traits are signs that can help us learn where we are on the path, and change course if we need too. You'll find that most bad managers have the following character traits.

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Let's get controversial. Formal business letters are not more professional; they're just stuffy. They're not better service; they're aloof and cold and say, 'This is our routine letter; we couldn't be bothered writing one especially for you'. Any manager who insists on formal language for business letters and reports is wrong. There, it's time someone said it.

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Our emotions got us into the recession. They can keep us there, or get us out of it. Resilience is the essential ingredient for thriving when budgets are cut, sales are down, when our jobs are threatened or gone, or when we are simply overwhelmed by it all. People who lack resilience can go into a downward spiral of lost confidence, worry, poor motivation, negative thinking and depression.

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Life can be a slow and inarticulate teacher. Yet a few simple, proven ideas can give us all far more control over our lives. Researchers who observe people who succeed in business, study, sport and relationships are revealing some valuable information about the way top achievers think. For me, the biggest surprise is, not so much what they think, but how much difference it makes to the whole of their lives. SECRET 1: CHOICEr

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We know what organizations think motivates people. But the research says money isn’t an effective motivator. By the 1960s researchers were showing that paying employees a miserly wage or salary is an effective way to destroy their motivation, but once you are paying them enough, any additional dollars won’t add much to their drive to succeed. But the news for leaders and trainers is good. Research reveals motivators that cost nothing, are simple to use and provide us with a valuable checklist to make our training more effective.

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Winter is upon us, which means it is a natural time to go within ourselves and work through feelings that have been tossed aside during the holiday rush. When these feelings come up, they can at times feel relentless. All that is really happening is that our emotions are trying to get us to ...

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In the last few decades, researchers have been identifying specific things that make people successful and have shown top achievers see life and behave in ways that we can learn. They use a set of skills that we could loosely call intelligence - emotional intelligence.

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What we commonly refer to as 'chronic guilt' could more accurately be described as 'habituated guilt' or 'patterns of guilt'. Because 'chronic' almost implies illness or disease; something we have no control over. When it comes to guilt, nothing could be further from the truth. No one is born with feelings of guilt. Guilt must be learned. Over time, it becomes habituated. Which means patterns become laid in the subconscious. Usually this happens in childhood, but the 'chronic guilt' can last a lifetime if no steps are taken to end it.

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How can we change? How can we make this new year better than the last? Let me offer one suggestion: Learn what responsibility really means. See, if you're like I used to be, you may believe responsibility equals pain, punishment, shame, blame, martyr, burdens, duty, obligation and ...

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I never kept a single New Year's resolution. Until I learned the secret I'm about to tell you. And now, I don't even *think* about whether or not I'll be keeping any new resolutions I make. I know it's completely up to me. And 'will power' has nothing to do with it. Will power is overrated ...

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Those who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder, or S.A.D., feel they must hide from other people: "I can't let other people see me." While the intensity of those feelings varies widely, those who suffer from social anxiety disorder share one common underlying premise: "There's something wrong with me, and I can't be fixed." Maybe not those exact words, but you get the idea. When you have S.A.D., you feel flawed and defective to the very core of your being. You feel 'bad and wrong' and nothing you can do will help.

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I learned this morning one more time - how important it is to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. It happened as I was looking at the barriers I've put up to 'receiving'. I was curious to know why I don't receive more love, more success, etc. I knew I must be blocking so much of ...

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Guilt exists as a fabricated emotion. It holds little or no realness. It's hard to call it a real emotion. You see, a real emotion is one that has both a positive and a negative side. Love, fear, hate, anger, sadness, happiness and so many other emotions all have both a positive and a ...

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Are you happy with yourself just the way you are? Do you accept yourself with all your shortcomings? Most people don't. For several reasons. For instance, society holds certain standards that by their very nature are almost impossible to live up to. You're supposed to strive for the perfect ...

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Anger is a funny thing. Controlling it is not... We tend to want to cover it up, the way we cover up certain body parts. "Don't let your anger show." Many people are afraid of anger - theirs and others. Some people use their anger as a weapon; or at least a tool of negotiation. A lot of ...

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Anxiety is a mystery. So misunderstood. So frightening. So unwanted. Nobody knows why it comes. And nobody knows why it doesn't leave. Nobody knows... or so it seems. You can read tons of information about anxiety, and still not have a clue about its true nature. Anxiety is a ...

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You often hear the phrases - anxiety attack and panic attack - used interchangeably. Which would be okay, if the goal is to NOT understand anxiety and panic. Just bundle them up together. Keep them a mystery. Keep them 'out there' somewhere. Nebulous and undefined. In other words, if ...

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It's true. I was coping with anxiety for many years. I don't even remember when it started. But I do remember when it ended. I was in an abusive relationship with my anxiety. I was being abused. Every day. It wasn't pretty. But I coped. Meaning, I 'handled' it. I struggled through. ...

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If you want more courage, one way is to cultivate your soul. Your soul. Many people seem to have lost theirs. Others don't even believe they have one. Most people don't have a clue about their soul; as indicated by the sorry state of affairs society functions out of. I've even heard people ...

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I had a good crying spell yesterday. Actually, I felt pretty okay about it. Because it showed me where my boundaries of pain were, and it showed me I was going into those boundaries. As a way to expand myself. In other words, the crying spell was a signal, or a manifestation, of the process ...

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The energy behind fear is very real. Not something to play around with. Or take lightly. It reminds me of the time - years ago - when I was visiting some friends on the North Shore of Hawaii. They were born surfers. Who moved from Florida to enjoy the awesome waves. Right before we got ...

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It seems almost a cliche'. "Avoid negative people. Eliminate them from your life! They'll only bring you down. One bad apple..." On the surface, it seems like good advice. We all want to feel good. Happy. Successful. How can you feel good if you're around someone who's miserable? ...

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Sometimes you feel like you REALLY got to change something. Maybe it's an annoying habit. Maybe it's more serious. Maybe it's losing weight, or stopping smoking. Whatever it is, you just get fed up with the situation. You're motivated to change. SOMETHING'S GOTTA GIVE! Maybe it's occurred ...

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Feeling better involves taking a series of steps. But a common problem I've had - and I've seen in many others - is they just want the success (whatever it is) without having to take the steps to get there. I call it the 'visualize winning the lottery' syndrome. "I don't want to succeed - I ...

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If you're a happy loving person then it's easy to tell someone else - "Just be happy. Just love yourself. Go ahead. Do it!" But if you're really hurting, or depressed - if you're at the 'low end' of the emotional scale - it's probably just going to increase the hurt or the anger or the ...

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Power often stands as a mystery - a misunderstood phenomenon. We often think power means 'power over' - which really amounts to manipulation or intimidation or coercion or outright brute force. True power has nothing to do with anything outside yourself. It comes from within. How it's ...

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Maybe I shouldn't call it 'finding' courage because courage doesn't lie around waiting to be found. You don't reach down and pick it up from the side of the road - or anywhere else, for that matter. No one is born with courage, so you can't really reclaim it either. Unlike love and ...

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When any event happens - when ANYthing happens in your personal reality, it brings up thoughts and feelings. A certain amount of thought; a certain amount of feeling. Together, those thoughts and feelings possess a certain amount of VOLUME. Someone makes an insulting statement to you... ...

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It can be a cold cruel world out there. You don't have to look far to see it. That's why so many people sleep through life. Asleep in their pity, their judgments, and all the other anesthetics currently on the market. Sleeping because it's too painful to wake up. It can be hard to find ...

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The obvious - but often unspoken - premise of most emotional healing lies with finding a way to rid yourself of those so-called bad emotions. Any way you can. Because some feelings are good, and others are bad. Even little kids knows that. We develop a hierarchy of good and bad emotions: ...

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In a way, fear is a lot like fire. Fire is essential for life, but it can also rage out of control and even kill you. The goal is not to eliminate fire. You can't. But you can turn it into an ally. You can set the boundaries and the rules and make fire work for you. Just as you can make ...

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For many, blame has become an art form. Ever see a comedian take a prop - some ordinary item like a pencil - and make up jokes about it? That's the way many approach blame. Just throw 'em a topic - anything - and they'll find someone to blame for it. We all do it from time to time. But for ...

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If you want to learn how to stop obsessive thoughts, the first step involves understanding exactly what's happening to you right now. It's like you're spinning on a hamster wheel. Like a treadmill that just runs in circles without ever getting anywhere. Why? Because you lack TRACTION. You ...

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It's true. I hear voices in my head. I don't talk about it much. But maybe it's a good time to start. You see, I'm a complex person. A lot goes on inside my head that no one else ever realizes. The main voice I hear comes from my ego. My ego takes information from the world - from my ...

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While self pity ranks as one of the most effective tools of a child in coping with the rigors of life, as a grown-up self pity becomes the glue that holds our problems together. It lulls us to sleep as it gently persuades us that we really aren't responsible for our life and the problems in it. ...

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35 years ago, at the tender age of 15, I happened upon a book called "Think And Grow Rich". I don't remember if it actually mentioned the Law of Attraction by name, but it certainly covered the topic well: All I had to do was focus - with intention, and purpose, and will - focus my thoughts on ...

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There's a lot more to the magic of love than we could ever cover in one short article, but here's a good place to start. See, we're so used to hoarding our love - locking it up; hiding it; keeping it safe - that we often end up hiding it even from ourselves. So often, we don't allow ourselves ...

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Here's how I used to feel: Something's not right. I'm miserable too much of the time. I barely know happiness. I feel 'down'. My heart aches. When will I feel better? I didn't start out this way. Although it often seems like it. I can vaguely remember moments of childhood glee. Life ...

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Once upon a time I was frantically racing down a side street, when suddenly the light up ahead turned red. Screeching to a halt, I yelled out: "I CAN'T WIN!!" Lot of emotion behind those few little words. But they pretty much summed up my life at the time. "Glad nobody heard that," I ...

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"This life is a test. It is only a test. If this had been a real life, you would have received further instructions on what to do and how to do it." Ever heard those words? When you first read them, it's almost a relief. "Whew! It's just a test." But when you look deeper, you ask: "Well ...

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A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight. You believe in ...A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight.

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Think back to the last time someone made you angry. Maybe it was earlier today, or yesterday. Or a few days back. It probably wasn't that long ago. What did they say? What did they do? Remember the circumstances? Get the image in mind. Now, think back to what you DID about the ...

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One of the biggest problems we all experience with our emotions involves getting 'stuck' in them. Meaning, we keep feeling the same exact feelings, over and over; day after day. If you seem stuck in your feelings - it's almost guaranteed to be painful. Or at least unpleasant. Sadly, we end up ...

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I'll never forget the time I finally learned to ride my little red Western Flyer bicycle without the training wheels. I really didn't want to take them off, but my dad felt I was ready. So off they came. Wouldn't you know it? He was right. And it felt wonderful! I was free - free as the ...

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Remember seeing a photo of the earth taken from outer space? A beautiful blue sphere painted with swirls of white. Pretty incredible, huh? Now imagine the blanket of atmosphere that completely covers our earth like a glove. We're cradled in this fabric that protects us and keeps us ...

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Every human being has the right to be happy. Every person is born with that right. We can be - and are - as happy as we will allow. And yet when we look around us, we see so many people who claim no happiness at all. Or if they do, it seems so fleeting; so elusive. Being happy and content ...

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Ever felt unworthy? Many people do. There's no substitute for self-worth. Self-esteem is a different story. Many substitutes exist for esteem. Interestingly, most people seem to confuse self-esteem with self-worth. Your esteem must be earned. Your worth is given. All humans are worthy. ...

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Is the whole notion of reality creation valid? I recently heard a some-what famous and successful person on the internet mention that the whole idea of The Secret was nonsense. He also went on to say that positive thinking was nonsense. And he topped it all off by saying that if it worked - ...

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Everybody wants fulfillment. Filled by what, we don't know. We just know hollowness and emptiness hurt. We want to be filled. And so we go looking out in the world. Looking for the person or the thing that will satisfy that unending longing we feel inside. We can spend our whole lifetime ...

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When something happens in your life, it tends to bring up a certain amount of feeling. Someone cuts you off in traffic, and it brings up anger or perhaps fear. That anger and that fear have a certain amount of volume to it. Or perhaps you're grieving for the loss of a loved one. You have a ...

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It's scary to really truly understand you have an ego - a living breathing part of you with its own thoughts and feelings quite separate from yours. And you're both living in the same body. It's like being locked in a dark closet with a total stranger. Imagine the feeling. All your life you ...

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Are you feeling real emotion? Or is it just a fabrication? Here's how to find out... Just because you're feeling something, that doesn't automatically mean it's a 'real' emotion. Because so much of what we feel is a 'mental construct' of our own making. In other words, it's a fabrication; ...

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Oh, you think men won't commit? I know for a fact that millions of men can't wait for that 'special day' to arrive. They'll think about it constantly. Talk about it with their friends. Dream about it at work. And the week leading up to that special day - they can't wait for it to ...

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You know the best thing I got going for myself? Deep down inside, where it really counts, I love and accept myself. I'm at peace with who I am. Not totally. But enough. I am my own best friend. Who's your best friend? For some, it's the Marlboro Man. Or Mr. Jim Beam. Or the U.S. Sugar ...

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Your shadow is real. I'm not talking about the dark image that forms on the ground behind you when you face the morning sun. No, I'm talking about a part of your consciousness. Your shadow is born when you are born. It's job is to collect and save all the thoughts and feelings you deny. ...

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Are you blocking relationships too? Somewhere early in life I decided I did not live in a safe world because the people in it could hurt me. And the closer someone got to me, the more likely they could (and would) inflict pain on me. I saw only one solution to this problem. I just can't let anyone get close to me. It's the only way I'm going to survive. I'll pretend when I have to, but deep down inside, there's no way I can let someone into my heart. One of the first movies I ever saw on TV showed a man crying because he couldn't be with the woman he loved.

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As a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs. 1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional responses.

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“There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you, we are meant to shine, as children do.” Marianne Williamsonr

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Relationships are difficult; requiring understanding, openness, patience, commitment and a sincere desire to do what it takes to make it work. It also requires both people to be committed not only to the relationship, but to their own personal growth. If one or both partners are not open to look at their own issues, which we all have, the relationship will ultimately run aground.

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Hard wired in our brains from the time humans first walked on earth is a “fight” or “flight” response. Even though our brains have evolved over the eons we still share this response with animals. It is our most basic response and was responsible for our survival at a time when we competed with wild beasts for food.

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FIVE WAYS TO SPOT AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENCE LEADER

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HOW TO KEEP GREAT STAFF Make them Feel Special

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The high cost of overlooking introverts What do Albert Einstein, Warren Buffet, Mahatma Gandhi, Charles Darwin and Rosa Parks have in common. They are all leaders who made an impact on their world.

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At the end of the unit meeting Jeremy once again felt very frustrated. Janice and Alan had once again taken up the majority of the time, talking about things which he felt were trivial and inconsequential. It seemed to him that every little thing that they did they had to embellish it so that it would look like it was some huge accomplishment. Jeremy, on the other hand, did have some success which merited attention. Over the last couple of months he had thought up and launched a couple of major initiatives which were quite successful.

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“A true history of human events would show that a far larger proportion of our acts are the result of sudden impulse and accident than of reason of which we so often boast”. Albert Cooper Have you ever spoken out in anger and regretted the words almost as soon as they came out? Ever acted without thinking out the consequences of your actions? If you are you are certainly not alone. Many high profile people have had their careers ruined because of one brief moment when their mouths went into action before their thoughts could stop them.

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Child Abuse To know about a person's open wound on the outside is obvious. - To treat it we apply a bandage and some TLC To know about a person's open wound on the inside may come from observing a person's demeanour which requires more study or by simply being told about it. - To treat it we need to apply compassion and lots of TLC The future of child abuse is that some people carry a subtle awareness that they are damaged property and will avoid committing to relationships and some will bury their abuse so deep that everyone is surprised

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The notion to lose weight can come from something as simple as an innocent remark, such as, "Haven't you put on a couple of pounds?" Depending on your personality, there's a whole new life issue that you hadn't explored yet, and for some sensitive personalities, it's a dangerous place to go.

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Deadbeat Parents This is someone who never grew up themselves and usually clings to their own parents too much or disassociates altogether. They are in fact mostly men, but women do it, too. On the other hand you can find a deadbeat parent right in the next room, leaving all of the child rearing up to the other parent or the television.

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Discipline Tough love is the best way to handle disruptive and/or destructive behaviour and following through is the key to instilling the message. Know the difference between natural and logical consequence and teach your child in it. - A natural consequence is when a child is playing with matches and accidentally burns their finger.

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Biological Factors - ADHD – If you have a high-energy problem child, have him/her tested for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). If they have it, learn as much as you can about it and change the child's diet to exclude triggers like foods high in refined sugars (sucrose, dextrose), foods containing dyes (kool-aid), and heavily-processed foods. Try to avoid drugs like Ritalin as it may make things weird and children won't remember to take it on their own at school.

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Teach your child in the art of life and at the same time learn about who he/she is. Parenting begins the moment a child is born. Whether you are a little or a lot involved in raising the child, the guidelines are the same with consistency being the key to making it a part of the child's character. How active your are in your child's life reveals what kind of parent you are. Even a deadbeat parent is being a parent, just not a good one, and there is that part in a child that knows it as neglect. Being a parent is a state of mind.

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Teaching Skills No matter the age, consistency is the key to teaching good habits and hygiene with the parent being the most influential example. You will find that children will mimic their parents in practically everything and will reflect a lot more back when they become a young adult. Children learn faster when the parent is interacting on their level, such as getting down on the floor and putting their toys away along side them. Walk them through things at a pace that they can follow as they have very short attention spans even without ADHD.

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Real people Each child is a unique and real person that parents get to meet each day as they grow into themselves. They bring their own sense of self and personality to the world along with their own place on the timeline of history. They also take us into new and strong emotions with fears in watching them make their own mistakes as they strive for independence.

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Getting Technical Psychological Type was developed by Carl Jung to explain some of the apparently random differences in people's behaviour because of the different ways that people use their minds.

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112558 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Dr. Carl Robinson Publishes a journal for Addressing Pervasive Anger A decade of successfully touching lives in trainings and sessions inspires his new book

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It may seem like we never learn absolutely everything about our bodies and how to best take care of them, but there are some good guidelines as well as other people's experiences that can help immensely. Health A healthy body starts with healthy thoughts. We can see how our own body responds to the life style we give it. For example, too much stress can cause weight gain because of the release of the hormone, cortisol. Stress can also cause weight loss because of a nervous stomach.

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A school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known.

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It is no secret that a company can not succeed without sustainable leadership. Today’s executive leaders must hold the secret on how to be a good leader. One may think they are a respected, successful leader, but are they really? Are they infecting their organizational community with negative ...

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The other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afte oon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ...

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Fiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...

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Level 2 Leadership is leadership in conflict. A Leader at this level will see the world in a "dog eat dog" mentality. When a level 2 leader is pushing and pulling and demanding, throws responsibility your way and then blames you when things go south; watch out. In management we call this ...

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We are all subject to it at one time or another. You’ve had this goal for a certain time. You’ve been working at it diligently, strategizing and prioritizing as you went along. Actions have been taken following your laborious planning chart and BOOM! A dry spell strikes. You’re right there; you can just about taste it. Everything is in place, it seems. The project is a theoretical or virtual success! Nothing concrete is happening! Questions scramble your well organized thoughts and the merry-go-round starts.

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The question is not can one sustain leadership, but rather can someone be a leader and maintain a low negative resonance in the workplace and expect compliance and growth in a business where they are in a position of authority? What do you think? Over the next few paragraphs we will explore this ...

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How do you feel when someone gives you a gift? In particular remember a gift that you have really wanted, or a gift that has been handmade. Or how do you feel when you receive a gift from a child that they have lovingly prepared for you? If you say that you “feel warm and fuzzy”, that you “feel ...

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It is no secret that a company can not succeed without sustainable leadership. Today’s executive leaders must hold the secret on how to be a good leader. One may think they are a respected, successful leader, but are they really? Are they infecting their organizational community with ...

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What kind of love are you talking about? There are many forms of love that English has only has one word for which is 'love' and it gets bantered about indiscriminately. Greek has five, which are more descriptive: - Desire – Attraction (epithumia) - Longing – Romance (eros) - Belonging – Affection (storge) - Cherishing – Friendship (phile) - Selfless Giving – Unconditional Love (agape) There is much range in the length, strength, and potential for loving and our life experiences help us to expand in all of them.

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What is keeping you stuck? What are the barriers to your success in your business, your life, or your personal relationships? Most likely, if you are struggling in one area, all areas are suffering. Why is that? Well, we each come to the table with a certain amount of available energy each and ...

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Ms Jenni Wright from http://www.emotionalintelligenceaus.com talks about the Dalai Lama the torch relay and compassion. The Dalai Lama has recently attended a five-day Seeds of Compassion conference. The conference featured dozens of workshops on various subjects, beginning with a panel ...

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The question is not can one sustain leadership, but rather can someone be a leader and maintain a low negative resonance in the workplace and expect compliance and growth in a business where they are in a position of authority? What do you think? Over the next few paragraphs we will explore this ...

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Be glad we don't live in a place where marriages are arranged or we are restricted to certain partners like a religious cult. Been there, done that. The best advice you can ever gave yourself was to discard any lingering baggage from childhood and get to know yourself really well before you settle down into a relationship. There is nothing worse than sacrificing yourself to an institution that you don't even know if you believe in yet because you don't know your self at all.

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If you want a relationship to click...find out what makes it tick.

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A total blunder may set you back. However, should you encompass a radical failure rather than a mere scrape, it would benefit you to analyze and reflect on the every step taken to reach your goal. It may well be that you hadn’t taken the time to envision all possibilities before selecting the best paths towards goal achievement. Ask yourself the following questions.

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Hope, being the flickering light that gleams and brightens the dimmest paths, permitting to grasp at dreams, wholeheartedly, even when circumstances seem to alienate all positive outcome probabilities. You’ve known, I’m sure, people who have made it beyond their dreams. What makes them different? Sure, you will see incredible perseverance, profound belief, skillful manifestations, outstanding courage but, the inner light of hope that propels through adversity is only ignited when resilience is present. Resilience leads to triumph.

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Hope, being the flickering light that gleams and brightens the dimmest paths, permitting to grasp at dreams, wholeheartedly, even when circumstances seem to alienate all positive outcome probabilities. You’ve known, I’m sure, people who have made it beyond their dreams. What makes them different? Sure, you will see incredible perseverance, profound belief, skillful manifestations, outstanding courage but, the inner light of hope that propels through adversity is only ignited when resilience is present. Resilience leads to triumph.

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Wasting precious time when undecided may undermine your self-confidence considerably. As you will know when your self-confidence deteriorates you dwell in uncertainty. This feeling of uncertainty tints your every move and lets off an air of ambivalence which is far from becoming. Security is based on certainty. Uncertainty breeds insecurity which is also very destabilizing. In indecision, we have uncertainty.

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Realistically, striving for perfection may somewhat be only a motivator to excel in a certain domain. There should never be a depletion of self-worth or self-confidence when perfection has not been reached. The human factor constantly interferes with the notion of perfection. Whether it is a mere droplet of inconsistency, a smudge or ripple, a tremor on a calm surface, it is just enough to cause the gripping feeling of failure with your core.

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Horseback riding is an art. Sure, in a Gymkhana, its a rather intense activity which blends speed and skill. As one, your horse and you swivel and swerve through obstacles while precious seconds go by. When jumping an obstacle course, timing and synchronization permit you to glide through the air, almost flying as you take off and land. Your skill and experience protects you from banal errors and injuries.

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A stagnant stigma Let us take good look at the stagnant stigma surrounding abuse and see abuse for what it really is: an oppressed, suppressed, repressed mighty universal power that has been stolen – mostly feminine. Now look closer. It takes extraordinary resilience and endurance to contain such compressed energy in the cells of our bodies, as well as our psyche. And, since it is an inherent and infinitely expanding energy, it was never meant to be suppressed.

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SPECIAL FOR TEACHERS ONLY What do students need to know to want to learn? 1. First, they need to know WHY? 2. Then, WHAT it will give them. In order words, HOW will it BENEFIT them? 3. This is usually related to careers, jobs, MONEY, GRADES. 4. Followed by, WHAT TIME INVESTMENT they will need, so HOW LONG will it take? 5. Ultimately, will they ever use it again, so WHEN will it be useful? Your greatest success will come in presenting everything as an OPPORTUNITY!

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We feel their presence in minute instances, remember their smile and laugh vibrantly, even when our eyes water at their loss. It is those moments that will forever remain. It is the sense of their presence that has impacted our lives and been determining factors in our growth or our life transitions. The more intuitive may even reconnect through dreams, alleviating the pain by finding solace in this seemingly real presence.

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It is unthinkable that someone exposes others to a debilitating disease simply because they feel it conce s no one that they are sick. Fear of being discarded may lie beneath such attitude. Even worse are those who refuse treatment and propagate illness without the least remorse.

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A leader should be transparent and his/her integrity should be evident. This is a challenge because when in accuracy emerges from a Leader’s mouth, the trust in his/her ability to lead dwindles. Therefore, a Leader needs to be detail-oriented. Notes taken on projects, detailed methodology suggested as to how his staff is expected to pursue their goals, clear expectations, consistent pertinent feedback to employees after individual meetings. ‘Details!’ You’ll exclaim! ‘I barely have time to complete what I need to do! It is time consuming AND time is a commodity, I can’t spare!’

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Your Emotional Intelligence skills are recognized. Your Leadership, team work, perseverance, performance and resilience are well-known. Your cognitive intelligence has been proven. Your analytical skills and capacity to rationalize has proven useful in emotionally loaded circumstances. You know yourself well and self-assess regularly to make sure you’re well and on track. You’re self-confident and poised. Your reliability is undeniable. You strategize and prioritize well. You know your limits well. You know when to stop and change orientation.

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Psst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than unacceptable. In fact, there are millions of people who never admit to being ‘abused’; they either accept it as part of their upbringing or it’s so deeply hidden inside that they find it too painful to face so “it’s best not to go there”. Wrong!

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WHAT ELSE DO STUDENTS NEED TO KNOW? They need to know you genuinely care. So hear their conce s; Tune into their feelings; Show you really care with your actions. They need to know you walk your talk meaning if you say it, you do it. They need a daily dose of HOPE and HUMOUR. I know you have it in you! Try anecdotes and laugh with them. They’ll love it and connect. They need to see flexibility. HOW? Say things like <Your way or My way>, whichever gets you to the goal. Just make sure you do everything.

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Once I was walking outside on a beautiful sunny day, I had stopped to chat with my horses and was walking towards the open field, when my dog came charging joyfully. It felt precisely like a locomotive ramming into my legs at full speed, sending me flying up in the air. Landing on my back, banging my head, I screamed <You stupid, stupid, stupid dog>, as the pain shot through my back and stars swirled around my head.

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Let’s first define COACHING as being a means of support given by someone having expertise in a certain domain. This support will be brought to you in consultations sessions given by email, over the phone or face to face individually or in groups. In some cases, the goals pursued will be known by you when you begin; in others, you will search for, discover and pursue your goals with the help of your Coach. In Life and Career Coaching, people seek to grow and enhance their capabilities. In Grief Coaching, people wish to find a soothing comfort to learn to manage their emptiness and pain.

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When sickness or disability is temporary, you will react and adapt to the momentary discomfort by seeking medical council and assistance to rehabilitate. On a short term, most people do not lose their bearing, unless they are worried of it being prolonged. Our society is set to provide the services for such instances. Generally, a person will assess and seek the required help.

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All kinds of losses can make you feel like it’s the end! Some are worse than others. Whether it is a separation, a divorce, a death, it will wind you out! The grieving period will extend according to your needs and one day, you will feel the need to claim your life back.

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It is said that Health Care Providers are prone to Compassion Fatigue at one point or another. The best of us are more likely to burn-out when extending our willingness to provide healing support beyond our capacity or in so trying circumstances that we fail to refuel rapidly enough to face the demand. As you know, a breach to our inner core may be caused by exposure to some element we are more sensitive to, leaving us vulnerable.

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As promised, here is your sequel to . You’re a go-getter. You’re constantly striving to reach your goals. You’re a determined achiever and feel pride and joy at performing well. You confidently move through difficult challenges with passion. Burnouts happen to the best of us. Just take a moment for a quick reality check. Are you eating and sleeping well? Do you take the time to exercise regularly? Do you have quiet time just to yourself?

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A little blitz to cleanse the body and get back on track always is welcome when that winter padding or muffin belly appears. Keep it simple. It’s a <back to the basics> moments. Here’s my routine, my little tune-up. Whether you stick to it a week or a month, it usually energizes you. It’s like taking the time to pamper yourself and your body loves it! 1. Eat 5 shares of veggies, 3 fruits and two 4 onces of meat, fish or protein per day. Add 2 slices of whole wheat bread with light margarine or a tiny bit of butter.

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Betrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so absolute, so impenetrable that you may trash any trustworthy or loving relationship in the future, or at least, that’s what can happen if you’re not careful!

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Always ready for a challenge, a new dare? When things are not to your liking, you erupt like a volcano, splashing surroundings and people with lava and spurting rocks! Are you forcing by-standers to relocate rather than be splattered? Never planning and having an unrealistic sense of what the future holds, are you always taken aback by events? Lacking the capacity of conscious, responsible action, you constantly blame the world for its intolerance. Rules and laws burden you! To those of your entourage, the scene is becoming old! Now, you feel their despair or disdain!

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As a leader, you will be called upon to solve a variety of problems. People will seek out your expertise to enhance performance and productivity. Your people skills will be sought out to facilitate, even mediate at times. Your wisdom will build your reputation and increase your responsibility to others. It is therefore in your best interest to constantly improve your skills and be up to date on methods and systems to enhance performance, productivity and skills. Your professional growth will also be closely linked to your self-growth.

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Have you ever had a so-called friend that turned into your nemesis as time went by and still remained glued to you in some way even though you’ve done all you could think of to push this person out of your life? Have you ever witnessed how some individuals weave themselves into your every relationship, tinting your every gathering with their presence, always finding a way to be invited through some other acquaintances? Short of escaping to another part of the world and cutting all communication with previous contacts, there seems to be no way out!

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Success appears when resilience is present whether it be in life or career transitions, in struggles or problem solving, or even in life’s moments of despair. Your goals are seldom reached in one easy stride. Life rarely serves Success on a golden platter. You will need to seek it relentlessly. It is your capacity to set objectives with determination and pursue these with all the courage and perseverance you can muster that brings Success your way.

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They're found in every work place. Regardless of how fortunate you are to be working with a great group of supportive caring coworkers, there always seems to be at least one that makes your work life less than ideal. They always seem to be looking for opportunities to impress the boss and spend an inordinate amount of time speaking just to hear themselves. While they can be mean and condescending to people under them they are sweet angels, the ideal team players, whenever their direct report or other superiors are around.

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A truth is seen by one person as factual, verifiable. The funny part of it is that it will vary from one individual’s perception to the next. Your perception is the way you receive and process a fact and what it means to you. It will be influenced by your values, previous experiences, your background, culture and environment.

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A few years back, I decided I wanted to get back into Literacy Project implementation and socio-economic development with Natives somewhere on this planet. My wonderful children were all grown up and I felt the urge of filling the void with a passion of mine!

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Sometimes, against all odds, life continues. At other times, it stops with no previous warning. Baffling, to say the least! What does that tell us? Well, I see it as a call to action. If you live, you must do. Do what? That depends on what is meaningful to you. I know one thing for sure, if you stop doing whatever matters to you, you will soon cease to exist in one way or another.

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One of the great writers on motivation, Ausabel, determined that there was intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. What does that mean exactly?

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In Focus, Psychologist and jou alist Daniel Goleman, author of the #1 international bestseller Emotional Intelligence, offers a groundbreaking look at today’s scarcest resource and the secret to high performance and fulfillment: attention.

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Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman's brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our "two minds"—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.

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In an intensely competitive and, occasionally, unforgiving business environment, it has never been more important to maximise our efficiency so ensuring we maintain pace with the demands the world appears to impose upon us. As a useful tool to aid our own time management and productivity many of us use ‘To Do lists'. In a recent conversation, however, I was reminded of the pitfalls that can come when these lists are allowed to manage us - instead of vice versa.

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In the Part One of this blog I discussed the problems that can be posed by attitudes to ‘To Do lists’, especially in the workplace, when people find themselves labouring under the burden of excessive stress. We looked at the possible adverse reactions and counter productive effects that the spectre of increasingly overloaded ‘To Do lists’ can have. In this second part I wish to offer some thoughts intended to break the cycle of negative thinking surrounding 'To Do' lists, and help to overcome the inertia caused when the effects of stress begin to dominate the working day.

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I have been working with Emotional Intelligence (EI)* for many years. During my 3 decades as a sales executive I found it to be an invaluable asset, and more recently, in my role as a business and life coach, I have encouraged my clients to harness its huge potential.

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Expectation and disappointment are often two sides of the same coin but the experience between expectations in our businesses as opposed to our personal lives can be very different indeed. BUSINESS vs PRIVATE EXPECATIONS

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Five Critical Exercises to Help You Figure Out What You Really Want in Life "Life is not a matter of chance...it is a matter of choice. "rn— Ka

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We are exhorted by personal development professionals, including me, to have a positive outlook, to remain optimistic, and to eradicate negative thinking. But let’s face it, these are tough economic times and there can be days when we struggle a bit, when we feel out of sorts, under pressure, or when we are just having a low energy day.

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For more than a decade, people from all organizational levels and from a broad spectrum of industries and businesses have participated in programs to help them enhance their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. While the participants' various roles have presented them with quite different pressures and challenges, the one factor all these people have in common is the emotions they experience. When people develop EI skills, they are able to become internally self-managed and capable of making their greatest contributions.

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The Emotional Intelligence (EI) of a business's people can be critical to success. Leaders' and employees' emotions can play a role in how people behave (what they say or do). And this behavior can directly impact their customers and the bottom line. In their Harvard Business Review article, ...

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Peter's Story: With his degree from a top school, hard work, and excellent organizational skills, Peter was able to land a challenging job as a new product manager. He was on top of the world. Based on his impressive accomplishments, Peter was assigned the responsibility of locking in ...

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For more than a decade, organizations have been helping their employees improve their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. People at all organizational levels - from executives to administrative staff - experience the same emotions even though the challenges, pressures and demands they face at ...

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Increasing your Emotional Intelligence skills offers significant benefits in three categories: decision-making, relationships, and health. These categories embrace virtually every behavior, every action and reaction, every situation you may encounter. They apply to your business and professional ...

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For over a decade, I have worked with an Emotional Intelligence (EI) model that indicates emotional self-awareness as the foundational competency. Emotional self-awareness supports and serves as a basis upon which to build EI competencies including emotional self-management, emotional ...

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A group of professional internal consultants from Chicago invited me to facilitate a professional development network session on the subject of Emotional Intelligence (EI). Because this group was comprised of highly seasoned professionals, I decided to draw upon their expertise. I developed a ...

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Enhancing Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the key to becoming resilient in this stressful world. Stress and its detrimental effects pervade our headlines. We are bombarded with a never-ending drove of articles on such topics as the economy, layoffs, holiday stress, academic stress, relationship ...

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By enhancing the Emotional Intelligence (EI) of its employees, an organization can successfully leverage two key trends identified in Patricia Aburdene’s Megatrends 2010: "The Wave of Conscious Solutions" and "Spirituality in Business." As we enter this new era welcoming the widespread ...

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Emotional intelligence is your ability, either innate or learned, to acquire and apply knowledge from your emotions and the emotions of others. Using this information, you can make better decisions about what to say or do (or not say or do) in any given situation. The Emotional Intelligence ...

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I recently received an email from a colleague who I haven't heard from in years. He reminded me that in the mid 80's I shared with him my model of factors affecting performance. He asked for another copy as he had given his last copy away to a corporate trainer while on a flight. After searching ...

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Goleman showed that the benefits of developing Emotional Intelligence skills are quantifiable.(1) This true story illustrates the impact on the bottom line. Joe's Story Joe (not his real name) is the director of engineering for a company that invents methods to improve oil extraction and ...

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Are you aware that your company could be harboring a virus, potentially costing you millions of dollars annually? Negative emotions can be like a stealth virus that drains both financial and human resources from your company. And unless you've safeguarded everyone by developing their emotional ...

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Time Management - Can this be done? Time is a constant, you cannot store it, save it, delay it, control it, so how can you manage it? Ask yourself this question if you had more time what would you do? The clue is in the question. What would you do? Time is Energy, i.e. we will find it when ...

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Being members of Selfgrowth puts us in a unique position of appreciating the power of social networking, and networking sites like Ecademy, LinkedIn, and Facebook. So what is the power of social networking? Well those in the know say it is about forming relationships. OK then what? Well then ...

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Occasionally I come across a "case study" for an Emotional Intelligence training program that conce s me. Generally there is a very thorough write-up explaining the program process, including rolling out the program to the organization. However, what conce s me is the program "results" that are shared. They have a tendency to indicate that the program was well-accepted and include other "feel good" program results. In this case it appears the ultimate result was that participants were aware of their reactions.

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I've heard stories from friends about the agony and stress caused by caring for their aging parents. Their rolls vary depending on the level of care their parents' need. Some are fortunate in that their parents require very little care; perhaps just a daily check-in to make sure all is well. Others are faced with greater challenges. A parent may require the level of care offered at a long-term care facility or nursing home.

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Are absent employees leaving you short staffed? When you start hearing excuses for absenteeism like, "I got bit by a mosquito and my eye is swollen shut," or, "I broke my big toe and can't walk," or even, "My car won't start," it's a symptom that your people are sick - sick of work. The woman who has an illness or death in her family on a regular basis may really be avoiding work, and you should be more than a little troubled about it.

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The rising levels of stress Americans experience was identified in the 2009 American Psychological Association's (APA) "Stress in America Survey." Conce ed with the "prevalence with which Americans continue to report increasing and extreme stress levels," Dr. Katherine Nordal Phd., APA's executive director, expressed the need for tools to help people better manage their stress. The development of our Emotional Intelligence skills offers an approach that goes beyond just managing stress.

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Eight Tips to Choose a Workplace Coach: To stay competitive, relevant and innovative, workplaces must do more with less talent. Providing a leadership and career coach is one way keep your employees “emotionally engaged” to contribute their personal best. “There’s no question that future leaders will need constant coaching,” notes Ram Charan, Leadership in the Era of Economic Uncertainty (McGraw-Hill, 2008). “As the business environment becomes more complex, they will increasingly turn to coaches for help in understanding how to act.”

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In the mid 90's, with the advent of Daniel Goleman's best-selling book, the concept of Emotional Intelligence gained popularity. Emotional Intelligence presented a new means to understand and improve people's performance because it could be applied to a wide variety of organizational development areas. While many businesses followed the approach of assessing their people's Emotional Intelligence, this did not guarantee the development of skill. In addition, without a means to measure impact, it was difficult to prove the worth of a training or development program aimed at improving skill.r

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Without work all life goes rotten- but when work is soulless, life stifles and dies. Albert Camus Business owners, leaders and CEOs everywhere are talking about the search for humanity in the workplace. These global leaders are examining the role of true meaning and purpose, both on an organizational and individual level. Steven Covey says there is a “spiritual renaissance taking place in the business world today.”

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Frantic, forgetful, fragmented and flummoxed. Does this describe your workplace or someone you work with? If so, you’re not alone. Many workplaces are driven by a frenetic, globalized, technology-driven, task focused climate.

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Formal soft-skill training for issues such as Emotional Intelligence, conflict resolutions, teambuilding and others can present a high-cost solution for organizations, especially in today's economy. However, creative approaches can be implemented without compromising the quality of the training. BODYr

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The secret key to success is failure! It's sounds, strange, it sounds counterintuitive but it is the secret to success. Ask yourself how many times have you failed in your life? I'm sure the answer is more than you care to remember. Then think of someone you admire, a role-model who you believe is very successful. Now ask yourself how many times have they failed? I guarantee the answer is many more times than you have. It is a natural law of life, we learn through trial and error. Just look at Edison and the thousands of attempts he made before he created the light bulb.

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What is the secret to success? There are so many people talking about how to become successful, but there is a problem. They are telling you how to become successful based on what they believe success means. For you to be truly successful, you must first define what success means to you. So how do you define success? The easiest way is to first consider the basic domains of life and then write down specifically next to each domain what success means to you in each domain. Here are some of the domains to consider. Relationships Intimate Relationships Family Relationships Otherr

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EQ Coaching Report February 2007 -n IHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential Summary: IHHP has conducted an assessment to determine the effectiveness of an extensive training, coaching and eLea ing program that we have delivered to one of our clients, a major financial institution. ...

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EQ SUCCESS STORIESnIHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential Two years ago, John Gardner, Systems Engineering Manager at Medrad, a medical devices company, was recognized as someone with a high degree of technical skills and an ability to "get things done." But at what ...

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Recently, we were designing a training program at the Institute for Health and Human Potential, and we began our meeting as we always do - by asking ourselves the question: “What do we want people to be able to do differently after the program?” It’s interesting that no matter ...

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"In the world today there is plenty of technology, plenty of entrepreneurs, plenty of money, plenty of entry capital. What's in short supply is great teams." John Doerr, Legendary Silicon Valley Venture Capitalist Teams with high levels of EQ consistently outperform ...

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"Shhuuut uuup!" said the sassy Gen Y to her astonished manager. "Excuse me?" replied the shocked manager, a Boomer. This conversation took place recently in the boardroom at one of the world's largest oil and gas companies. It is a moment that ...

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"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place" George Bernard Shawn We all have relationships at work that aren't working. This is not surprising, given how the pressure of time and need for results can cause people to have impact ...

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What's Going on at Your Hospital? The Perils of Playing SmallnIHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential What's Going on at Your Hospital? In US hospitals today, one in 20 patients receives the wrong medication. Three and a half million patients become infected while ...

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Do you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved? Deepest intimacy - When your relationship started and you were so 'in love', do you remember what it was like? Can you remember that you used to talk about everything? You spent every moment with each ...Do you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved?

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A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event. The anxious person is less able to tolerate the normal uncertainties about ...A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event.

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The physical brain

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Authentic : 1. Of undisputed origin; genuine. 2. Conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief We hear this term so often in this world of ours as we become increasingly aware of the need to know ourselves and achieve life balance. How can you tell if some-one really is authentic or the real-deal?r

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FORMING A BUSINESS ASSOCIATION OR JOINT VENTURE South Africa has some wonderful inspirational individuals who are successful in assisting you in developing yourself, your career and your financial status. The sphere of Personal Development is increasingly under the spotlight as people realise that attitude comes from within.

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I was taught most of the fundamentals about life by my Father and therefore learnt to think like a boy. It certainly has served me well in many aspects however I believe that I learnt to copy the social behaviour of men and never really got to know how to appreciate the intrigue of being a woman. I spent most of my free time with my Dad at sports clubs and pubs and was able to interact with people much older than myself. Another thing that has stood me in good stead.

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I was taught most of the fundamentals about life by my Father and therefore learnt to think like a boy. It certainly has served me well in many aspects however I believe that I learnt to copy the social behaviour of men and never really got to know how to appreciate the intrigue of being a woman. I spent most of my free time with my Dad at sports clubs and pubs and was able to interact with people much older than myself. Another thing that has stood me in good stead.

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Ralph Waldo Emerson said "Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed." Alte ative Healers from all over ...

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It is no secret that who you know is just as important as what you know. In fact who you know may be more important than what you know because if you know someone who knows it you don't have to know it. Now there's a mouthful. n Knowing them is not enough. You've got to know them well enough ...

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Michael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see all the good things I am…

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The word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them a sense of understandin…

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40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is growing again offering people the opport…

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We are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing other…

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Finally, an iPhone app that supports your rise to star performance as a leader. True North Leadership just introduced the FREE Leadership Keys app. Click the link or use your phone to scan this QR code to get your download. It’s usual for leaders not to realize that Leadership is like a performance with few opportunit…

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How to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out? This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders. • How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having them grow their focus and lea…

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The Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted. Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep? • When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want? • Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already tried? • Do you step on their i…

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What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 years, both individually and in their organizations, I wanted to summarize some of the key be…

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Teamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now.\" Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to succeed or fail. We know…

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How the Shiny Light Destroys Relationship and Our Leadership Credibility What percent of time do you think you operate on automatic from your habits? Research tells us that it is 95% of the time. What are you missing out on when you are doing things on autopilot every day? Often what this failed focus leads to ignorin…

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Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies with Others: Mastering the Moment In the last blog I started with strategies to raise your emotional intelligence for yourself. In this next in the series we will look at strategies to raise your emotional intelligence with others. Mastering the Moment Your success or underperfor…

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I was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to go over his expectatio…

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Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: Mastering the Moment, Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top performer. These…

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