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The Mind is a wonderful tool for observation, conceptualization, processing information and in short - thinking. However, when the tool becomes the Master, stress is inevitable. Like a computer, your Mind holds lots of data. It also has a program to organize that data. Each mind programs the input it receives through unique perceptions and interpretations developed in early childhood. This childhood template is your mind’s operating system until you choose to change it. De-stressing involves becoming aware of and updating these childhood beliefs.

We all have felt stress before, or have times when we wish we knew how to calm down! No matter how confident and relaxed you are, you know what it’s like to be nervous before an interview, trembling before you are about to give speech, or cold and clammy when you’re about to pick up your date. Nearly everyone feels nervous over some issues, yet many never seek knowledge to learn how to calm down properly. Life is too short to go through it drowning in your anxiety. Learn

Are you too hard on yourself? Do people tell you they really like you, or think you are great at what you do – but still inside you think you are ‘not enough’ Do you criticize yourself to try to motivate yourself, but really all it does is stress you out and get in the way of success? Here’s the irony: You work so hard for other people to think well of you, and once they do you don’t even take in their compliment.

What’s the alternative to making decisions? Allowing someone else, or circumstances, to make them for you. And that is giving up control of your life. That’s giving up all power to your life to other people or circumstance. And that will make you miserable It reminds me of walking ...What’s the alternative to making decisions? Allowing someone else, or circumstances, to make them for you. And that is giving up control of your life. That’s giving up all power to your l

You have an awkward interaction with your friend…Do you blame her and wait for an apology, or do you proactively reach out to ‘own’ your part in it? Your assistant does your marketing promotion wrong. Do you get irritated at her or do you calm yourself down before asking her to help you understand what went awry and how you can prevent it next time?

Playing stress relief games to reduce stress is a good way to rid the body and mind of exhaustion, anxiety and depression. Games relieve stress a lot faster than traditional relaxation techniques or methods. Games provide effective and instant stress relief solutions. Why Play Stress Relief Games? rnThe answer is simple: people feel better when they are doing something enjoyable. Playing is fun; games induce happiness and communication, promote cheerfulness and reduce depress

Sleep is my second favorite stress reducer after deep breathing. Sleep is the thing people will neglect the most. Most people understand that they need more sleep, they agree that they need more sleep, they pretend that they are trying to get more sleep, but they don’t get enough sleep. Adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep each night, and most adults do not even come close to that as a regular amount.

Portia Nelson is an amazing woman; a singer, songwriter, actress, and author who passed on in 2001. Her brilliant poem entitled: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, is published in her book: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk. Copyright © 1993 Portia Nelson, Beyond Words Publishing, Hillsboro, OR, USA. Used with permission. Autobiography in Five Short Chapters Chapter One. I walk down the street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost, I am helpless, it isn't my fault and it takes me forever to find a way out.

Teasing, as either a teaser or target is a universal experience that all persons participate in, or are exposed to at some level. The childhood rhyme says “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me”. This is probably one of the biggest lies we try to convince ourselves, and our children.

Stanford Medical School and the World Health Organization agree that 90-95% of illness and dis-ease is caused by - "Stress". What is Stress? Briefly, you have primitive fight, flight and freeze responses which are designed to effectively help you deal with immediate threats to survival. When these responses are engaged for long periods without rest the body deteriorates.

Just like there are a myriad of different symptoms of stress, there are likewise a myriad of different ways we as human beings have learned to deal with or “cope” with stress. As I’ve thought about it, I’ve come up with four major categories of stress mangement strategies. The first three stress managment strategies are the most common. The fourth stress management strategy is what I am proposing as the right solution. To make this a bit easier to understand, let’s

Do you ever have the experience where you are worried what is going to happen in the future? It’s not anything specific, or maybe it’s many specific challenges that are all adding up. You might even know your anxiety is ‘irrational’ but that doesn’t help! Here are two approaches you can use to ‘think positive’ and get back into a state where you have ease and can concentrate. Focus on the Moment

Ronnie Nijmeh, ACQYR.com Vladimir from Serbia and Montenegro had a great question: "Results are only one important piece of the puzzle, but there'sone thing that I'm missing. You have to feel a strong desire todo what you want. You must be "starving" for success. But how canwe make ourselves ...

The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. The truth is other people are not responsible for any of these things. When you give others control over your feelings, thoughts and choices, you feel powerless. That loss of control is the cause of stress. The natural response to loss of control is fight, flight or freeze.

Who could not use more relaxation in life? From everyday stress like work schedules, kids, or traffic to big life changes like moving, divorce, or the death of a loved one, stress relief is a much needed goal for a healthy, balanced life. There are so many wonderful avenues to bring about stress relief. Exercise, going for a hike in the woods, seeing a good movie, or listening to your favorite music (to name a few) would all bring great stress relief. But these things might b

Where does anger come from: Anger is an emotion. It stems from issues in your past that are both unresolved and unforgiven! These feelings are buried deep down inside you and cause you emotional and physical harm. Anger comes from a past environment of confusion, chaos and lack of ...

Our main foe at work is stress and a lot of stress. There is no doubt to that! With all the troubles and pressure we have while working, it would take a miracle for us to be able to withstand all the pressure from our job while having our work productivity unaffected. No matter how fit we may be or how built our body shape is, once the fury of stress hit us, then we are as helpless as anybody else.nnWhen early signs of stress start to knock at our door and we do not address i

The end of summer is over. What has the highlight of your summer been? Sure, go on…relive that moment now. For me it happened last week while in the San Francisco Bay Area after doing a training on Influence and Friction-Free Relationships for a company. I took off a handful of days to go mountain biking in Lake Tahoe and then visited with my two oldest friends – healthy organic food,lots of laughs, supporting one another’s direction. Most of the time I was able to be ‘off’, but there were still some moments that thoughts about work still made me feel ‘on’.

Stressed? Finding it hard to cope? Unfortunately, this is becoming the norm.n nIn a recent survey conducted by ACQYR, almost four in five people felt inadequately trained to cope with stress. Respondents felt that their organizations weren’t providing sufficient training and tools to effectively manage increasing stress levels.n nThe good news is that you’re not broken. You’re fully competent and capable, but you may be negatively handicapping yourself without realizing

We live in a culture where the definition of addiction is our motto: ‘More is better and there is never enough’. The drive for more, bigger, faster does not allow for a state of satiety, a place of feeling full, satisfied, sustained. Addiction comes in diverse packages yet unde eath, all addictions have core characteristics in common. While the word addiction stimulates thoughts of familiar substances like alcohol and drugs, the categories of addiction are growing.

Usually people are “difficult” because they are going about getting their needs met in the only way they know how. They have very specific (and we might think “overly rigid”) ways of feeling powerful and having esteem; they focus narrowly on controlling things, situations, and people so that they can get the outcomes that will enable them to feel good. They are not able to feel good by connecting meaningfully with you for who you really are.

Dr. Michael Pangelinan of the Universal City Medical Group tells you how to avoid and/or overcome the debilitating effects of lethargy and fatigue associated with the health status of your adrenal glands. nnLethargy and fatigue symptoms are a frequent result of worn-out adrenal glands. Because their hormones regulate the fueling of cells, and especially those of the brain, under-fueling results in low energy and a worn out feeling, sluggishness, trouble getting up in the morn

There are plenty of aggravations these days that are out of your control. The effects of the economy, and other people’s flaws are obvious examples. But for many of the problems that eat up your time and energy, you may have a hand in causing them yourself. This is not blame, this is good news! That means you can quickly do YOUR part to have more success with less stress. Think of a chronic frustration or an acute challenge you are facing. Ask yourself if you are ‘causing’ it in any of these ways:

You don't need me to tell you how stressful life can be. You experience stressful situations while attempting to navigate new relationships and learn new routines at home and work. It helps to understand how to reduce stress in the four stages of becoming competent as change your life by learning anything new. Let's look at the stress you experience as you learn to drive a car. Unconscious Incompetence

There are many fun ways to relieve stress. All you have to do is get creative and ask yourself, "What do I like to do for fun?" One of the ways you can have fun and relieve stress is through exercise. I know, I know, I can hear you groaning now. But exercise doesn't have to be difficult or boring and studies show that exercise does relieve stress. So don't give up on this idea before you hear me out. Sometimes just getting out and being active in the fresh air is all you need and there are many ways to make this fun.

Movie theatres like us to believe that silence is golden; when it comes to watching a show that just cost £20 for the tickets and another £30 in snacks I do not think that many people would argue that at least in that case, silence is golden. It may sound strange to think of silence as an anger management tool, but when used in the right situations it can be a very effective one. Often times when we are in an argument with someone we are so concerned with getting our point

Hi Everyone, Lauren Miller had spectacular success using EFT for her stage 3 cancer. She shares her story (and EFT methods) in this article. Please note that while only one successful EFT session launched this remarkable remission, it was her persistence that kept the ball rolling. Hugs, Gary ...

Chaos and fear are closely linked. When we shift into a panic state, we fuel the flames of chaos. I love the analogy of "fear storms," because that is what they are, and eventually they blow over just like a storm, if we don't encourage them to stay. When our abstract, ...

Fear is a persistent and insatiable guest who is always looking for something to eat. Today's financial headlines and emotionally charged news stories provide a banquet feast for fear. The more fear is fed the bigger it grows. The bigger it gets, the more overwhelming and devouring it becomes. As it inflates, fear bullies us into feeling too vulnerable and victimized to do anything about it. Like most bullies, fear does not have any real power. Though loud and intimidating, fear is powerless to do anything but scream in our ear and shake up our system.

What makes a great communicator so persuasive? What makes the best leader motivational? How does one become a great, inspirational leader? "I wasnt a great communicator, but I communicated great things."--Reagan in his farewell address as president. Voice Their Dreams A great leader is able to ...

Here are the top 5 health news stories for the week. * 6 Weird Signs You're Way Too Stressed Out * Physical symptoms of stress, such as dry heaving, can manifest themselves in weird ways when the affairs of life get too overwhelming. Go here for the complete news story: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/42648940/ns/health-mental_health/ * 15 Things Your Lifeguard Won't Tell You * Think you know all there is to know about sunscreen, chlorine and pool "accidents"? Go here for the com

While dating is a good exercise to meet different people and weed out those who may not be worthy of your time, it can also brings with it the complications of pressure from the person you are dating and also peer pressure from friends and family. A classic example of dating peer pressure is the woman who has been single a long time and when she finally starts dating again, her whole family tries to speed up the process and tries to get her married off. Another example is when seemingly well meaning friends may pressure you to have sex with the person you are dating.

When you fall, do you get right back up? Do you learn from your mistake and move on? Or do you kick yourself so hard in the butt that you just mope around for days in your PJs and wonder why you're so miserable? Come on! Get a grip! Okay, okay, that was uncalled for, but seriously, the more ...

After 3 ½ hours of jumping, thumping, and pumping at a Bruce Springsteen concert last week, lyrics to his song “Wrecking Ball” kept looping in my head: “If you think it’s your time, then step to the line, C’mon take your best shot… let me see what you’ve got! Bring on your wrecking ball.” (The song is actually about the destruction of the former Giants Stadium in favor of the current MetLife one, but stay with me here, the words apply never-the-less!)

Running a happy, successful home can be compared to running a successful business. I do both. These are the key areas that cannot be neglected. 1. Know your mission. Companies have mission statements and it is important to know the mission statement for your family. My husband and I decided ...

Do you want to know why you feel badly most of the time? I've done the reading. I've done the work. I KNOW what makes you (and me) feel stress, discomfort, anxiety, nervous, upset, angry, irritated...call it what you want. Bottom line: You're not happy. You can treat your unhappiness like a speck of dust that's on the projector screen in front of you. Every time the picture changes, the speck of dust is now on something else, something different. Or...you can direct your attention to where the speck of dust actually resides: on the camera lens.

Loss of zest, life purpose or perceived identity stresses the human spirit. How you define who you are, and the meaning and purpose of life is core to the health of your spirit. You experience spiritual stress when these definitions are challenged or unclear. The human spirit asks, “Who am I”, “What is life about” and “What is my purpose”? These questions peak at times of significant life change or loss as in the identity challenges of adolescence and mid-life or loss of a child, spouse, job or body part.

Emotional stress comes from the reaction to fear. Anytime we feel threatened by situations we cannot control, fear arises. Emotional responses are expressed in many ways, such as, anxiety, frustration, anger, hatred, powerlessness, sadness, grief, depression and more. The purpose of this article is to provide quick tips to address emotional stress now and over time. it is useful to understand the unique patterns of stress that affect you.

Are you gullible - do you just believe what other people tell you? Or do you appreciate the vital difference between understanding something and real knowledge? My Brother's Shiny New Red Bicycle Many years ago, I was just five, my older brother was given a bicycle, a deep red bicycle. I was so jealous, I wanted one myself. But I had to wait until he outgrew it before I inherited his red one. At that tender age, two years is a long time! One early spring day, my father took us down to the park, next to the library. It was time to learn to ride.

As working professionals, we work hard and give to others all day. When we are advised togeteight hours of sleep, but don't, it can make us feel guilty. We wish we knew how toshutoff our devices in the evening, how to keep ourselves from trading an hour ofproductivityfor sleep, or how to turn our heads off when we wake up at 2 a.m. anticipating tomorrow’s 'to do' list. We have the will, but not the way… but we do have tools that can help us handle the stresses of our day and have more control over sleeping throughout night

Today, many people are very familiar with the Law of Attraction. For anyone who watched “The Secret,” the Law of Attraction, and its principles were communicated very clearly. This universal law became conceptually familiar to people desiring healthier lifestyles, more money, and/or a soul mate. As great and entertaining as “The Secret” was, I'm still wondering "how did it help people master the law of attraction?" I’ve had a lot of communication with a lot of people that shared frustration, disappointment, and/or confusion with the Law of Attraction.

Does your ‘to do’ list feel like the never-ending stream of clowns getting out of a Volkswagen? Conventional wisdom suggests that to reduce your overwhelm you should ‘Prioritize’. But your challenge is that Everything Seems Urgent. Below is the formula to win in situations of ‘too much to do and not enough time’. Be sure to read to the end because it’s my birthday today and to honor it I’m giving you a very extensive gift that will help you manage all you have on your plate. 1) Know your Purpose and Personal Strengths

Cherokee Indians have an interesting insight on your internal motivation which can change your life. They say two wolves live inside everybody : a black wolf and a white wolf! The black wolf feeds on negativity, it lives to bring you undesirable experiences. It's the enemy within, also known as your self-sabotage mechanism. The white wolf is on your side, it feeds when you're positive, realize your dreams, and enjoy desirable consequences. The Black Wolf

Increasing workplace productivity is a major source of stress in the workplace. Management is under pressure to get more done in less time at less cost. Workers are under pressure to learn new technologies, or new procedures with out-dated technologies. The resulting stress can be crippling, physically and emotionally. There is a solution. Some experts recommend discussing this with management. This is good advice. However, their perception is usually that the less work you do, the more work they have to do. You need a creative solution to your problem.

Respond and responsible have the same Latin root [re 'again', spondere 'to promise']. You can respond when you take responsibility. This is a decision that you are accountable for your circumstances, which doesn't mean you're to blame. Be Responsible Without taking responsibility, you pretend your contribution has had no effect, and such self sabotage makes you unable to respond. Yet no matter what you have or haven't done, it has affected the situation!

If you're wary of making commitments, see that making and keeping promises strengthens your personal power, which helps you realize your dreams. This implies that dislike of commitments is pure self sabotage. So to become more effective in keeping your promises, enjoy these tips to change your life. Note that fulfilling a promise always presumes that your life continues as normal. Barring life-changing accidents, there should be no reason why giving your word does not always mea It Will Be Done, 100% guaranteed. Increase your Personal Power

Stress management for teens can be tricky, especially if their stress is displayed by aggressive behavior or through withdrawing from family or friends. So before you approach your teen about their stress, or go overboard in punishing them for the way they display their stress, take a step back and consider the best approach with a calm and level head. When there are two parents in the home, you should always present a united front.

Most studies on heart attacks, and heart attack symptoms, have been performed on men. But surprisingly, when the National Institutes of Health (NIH) studied heart attacks in women, they found that women have much different experiences. In fact, many of the symptoms of heart attacks in women are misdiagnosed as chronic fatigue or flu! So if you are a woman – or someone who loves one – you need to know how heart attack symptoms women differ from heart attack symptoms men.

Are you aware of your stress? If you think you have no stress, you are most likely not aware of how stress is affecting you; you’re in denial. In fact, the stronger you think you are, the harder you may find that stress hits you with a powerful jolt. I know this from experience.

Every fall, I began to feel the constricted pressure of having too much to do and no time to get it all done. One year, I had an epiphany about why this happened and what to do about it. It was a crisp, beautiful fall morning. For me, it was the kind of weather that makes me want to get up and dance my way through the day. Not this morning, though. I sat on the sofa, pulled the cover over my head and wanted to disappear. I didn’t want to die.

You want success in whatever you choose to do, and the secret of success is to adopt principles which enable you to be successful. The old adage says that all roads lead to Rome, and it's indeed true. But it's generally not explained that some roads are more direct than others, they'll get you there faster. If you are short of time, stop wasting time on the tortuous route. You'll change your life by becoming more effective. How to Change your Life

In Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen's original "Chicken Soup for the Soul," I am reminded of the short story titled "Another Check Mark On the List." This is a story about a 15-year-old boy named John who, on one rainy day, when it was too wet outside to play, he decided to write a list of ...

No matter how much you love your work, your play activities, your friends, family and even pets, you need to take a break from them. There’s a behavior researched by psychologists called “habituation”. Essentially it means that with repeated exposure to any stimuli, you “learn”,whether consciously or unconsciously, to ignore it. In life, that can result as boredom, procrastination and even cessation of the behavior. To bring passion back into your life, to make your life more interesting, your work more productive, you need a break. Change is good! Relationships need a breakr

I was quite surprised when I began searching for research on Tai Chi’s benefits for diabetes . . . it was very difficult to come by. Because on its face, Tai Chi seems to possibly offer many benefits to someone with diabetes. Tai Chi is known to stimulate microcirculation in practitioners, and is a highly effective stress management technique, and very gently burns a significant amount of calories. In fact, Tai Chi may actually help the body find homeostatic chemical levels.

Insomnia is like a thief that steals the sleep of more than 60 millio Americans every night.

You know not to think the obvious kinds of negative thoughts. Thoughts like “I am not as smart as my counterparts” or “I can’t…” Those are easily identified as thoughts to remove from your mental diet. Here are 3 other kinds of ‘empty calories’ thoughts. Cut them out immediately! 1. Unanswerable questions – When things aren’t going your way, you often ask an unanswerable question, such as Why don’t things work out for me? or Why does it look so easy for the guy who sits next to me? or Why doesn’t the person in operations get back to me?

Relationship stress can be a huge source of misery and health problems. Studies show, for example, that marital stress and dissatisfaction go hand in hand with depression and heart trouble for both men and women. In one study, University of Pittsburgh researchers studied 500 middle-aged women and found that women in high stress marriages, when compared with this in low stress and more satisfying marriages, were at greater risk for heart attacks and strokes because they were more likely to have blockages in the main artery of their hearts and in their carotid artery.

My friend, Kay called. Stressed about the impending holiday season, she complained, “I’m planning that dar Christmas Eve dinner.” She is experiencing this once welcomed tradition as a dreaded event. “Can you change traditions? She asked.” The tradition began when her mother married. Since her husband’s family gathered on Christmas Day, she created the Christmas Eve dinner as a special way to celebrate with her family. Over the years, as children married and moved away, the value of the event grew into the highlight of the year!

I use these stress herbs to treat anxiety, insomnia, depression, nervousness. You can use these effective, natural herbal stress relievers in tea or tincture.nnnHerbs are natural stress relievers with little or no side effects and are a popular option to synthetic medications...n n Kava Kava - is a herb of the Indonesian and Polynesian islands and is a hot favourite for its anxiety relieving effects. Kava, when drunk, gives a sense of well-being but does not affect mental ale

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The secret of success, as you saw in the previous articles in this series, is neither what you have, nor what you do. To use this secret and change your life you first need to authentically know what you are. Have you spend enough time contemplating the crucial question asked earlier: What Am I?

There's a great divide between theory and practice. You get information from outside, and mental investigation enables you to understand it. But authentic knowing is far more than just understanding. The next step to mastery is to get your own experience, the energy you put into practice makes your knowing authentic.

Self-defense is a basic right.* If someone attacks you, you have the right to defend yourself. Yet strict gun control regulations interfere with that right because ordinary citizens abide by the law while criminals acquire guns illegally. That leaves honest people at a distinct disadvantage - how can the police be immediately at every scene whenever desperately needed?

Following the War of Independence against the arbitrary and unjust policies of England's King George III, the USA needed a new legal framework. All American citizens had learned to distrust oppressive taxes imposed by the legal British government.

Is the Sandy Hook tragedy being used by the administration to implement the United Nation's Arms Trade Treaty - the global gun grab? Many other shooting sprees have resulted in equally cynical gun ban attempts across the world. Are gun laws to control guns, or to control people? The British Gun Grab

Forbes reported a survey that found that since the economic stress hit America, over 90% of American workers are now suffering regular insomnia. Sleep loss increases the risk of heart attack, it lowers the immune system’s resistance to infection, and it aggravates mood disorders, increasing ...

How Could this Change the World for ALL of Us? A few years ago I caught part of a major network news program on genius children and their's and their parent's experiences with public schools pressuring them to place these children on Ritalin. Some of the parents being interviewed had found alte ative ways to deal with their children’s issues, that didn’t involve years of drug use, such as Ritalin.

Has America declared War on Assange and WikiLeaks? The disclosures by Australian jou alist Julian Assange and WikiLeaks have clearly upset America. Yet the right to expose shameful US government secrets is protected by the First Amendment's rights to free speech and press freedom. As Supreme Court Justice Hugo Black ruled in the 1971 Pentagon Papers Daniel Ellsberg whistle-blower trial:

Disappointed is not the word for it! Not at what his email contained, but at what it didn’t say. Charles was a new friend, we'd met on a personal development course. He was American, I'm English Canadian, and we’d connected. He told me he was a real estate investor. “I do it both for myself and for clients who enjoy amazing returns, but don’t have the time or expertise to manage their investments themselves.”

“What if they think my comment isn’t smart?” “Is the answer to my question in the materials they distributed or explained in a prior meeting?” “I don’t think I have as much experience as they think I do, I better not state my idea with conviction - this way I have an out if my recommendations don’t turn out to be right.” That’s what Michael told me was on his mind when he decided not to speak up in the meeting with his boss, his colleagues, and their prospects.

Are you gullible? When somebody says something do you automatically believe them? Or do you automatically disbelieve, assume they have a hidden agenda, and discount everything they say? Both are reactions, yet a reaction, to re-act, to act again as you did last time, has little personal power. You simply defend what you already think, and put no energy into changing your life. Change Your Life Yes, but how? Evaluate another person's perspective and their evidence. The extra power comes when you invest your time, energy, and willingness to explore their position.

Can your thoughts, either positive or negative affect your health? It may sound like science fiction, but there is plenty of scientific evidence that shows this to be true.

The USA is not alone in facing this problem of mentally deranged individuals and criminals. Both Britain and Australia suffered mass shootings in the 1980s and 1990s, despite their already stringent gun laws. Both countries nevertheless decided that even stricter gun control was the most effective answer. Their experiences are enlightening. British Experiences with Banning Gun Ownership

Life is stressful—that’s a basic fact. Stress comes in all shapes and sizes. Of course, major life events, such as a sickness in the family or financial woes, are universally stressful. There are other, less obvious day-to-day stresses, though, many of which impact individuals differently. (One of the key concepts regarding stress is that “stress is in the eye of the beholder.”) Sometimes stress can stem from happy things. Think about how exciting moving to a new home

Government Failure? Or Government Oppression? Citizens all across the world are increasingly recognizing the problem of government failure. Many governments are increasingly incompetent at that most fundamental of tasks: protecting their citizens from harm. From Tunisia in North Africa to Syria in the middle East, from Britain to America, ordinary citizens are gaining increasing clarity about government failure as well as government oppression.

Stop Confusing the Issue with the Facts "It doesn't matter what you say, I've made up my mind and I'm not going to change it." Such self-sabotage is widespread, you've probably seen it often. Everybody likes to be right. But when the need to be right is exacerbated by the dislike of change, then you get the hilarious comedian's line: I've made up my mind, stop trying to confuse me with the facts!

Reiki is a complementary treatment modality that can improve healing. Reiki is the life force that flows through all living things. Stresses of everyday living create blockages and imbalances in the body. Since Reiki reaches all levels of existence, it provides the environment for unification & balance to take place on all levels of the person. Reiki provides support for restoring physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance in a way that optimizes health and healing.

My client’s boss said to me about my client: We had a plan in place to move forward with pricing. She was in the situation and just went with the idea that came to her mind. “She needs to think instead of react.” My sister in law told me about her day last week as a pre-school teacher: “I came home and snapped at the kids.” How about you: Do you think, or do you react?

If you insist you are right, and someone else is wrong, this stops you looking at their perspective. Why would you waste time looking at something that you already know is wrong? When you know you are right, this prevents you learning anything new, which halts progress. Yet real progress can be seen as an improvement in your capacity to deal with the world and its vagaries. The secret of success is to enhance your abilities and become wiser. Increase your Understanding

The simplistic answer to the Sandy Hook massacre is obvious: Just make all guns illegal. But is any law 100% effective? Criminals don't obey the law. The UK experience from banning guns - the UK is now the violent crime capital of Europe according to the European Commission (see previous article) - demonstrates that simplistic answers to complex problems don't work. In contrast, Switzerland has automatic guns above every fireplace, yet is one of the safest (and most prosperous) countries in the world. People kill Other People

Achieving anything needs personal power which comes by increasing your awareness, as we saw previously in this Change my Life series #6. So how do you become more aware? Start Noticing Start by noticing more. The more you notice, the more you realize there is to notice. As the brilliant Nobelist Albert Einstein observed, "the more we know, the more existence turns out to be mysterious. The more we know, the less we know and the more we become aware of the vastness."

Time is the great equalizer. Everyone gets the same number of hours to work and play each day. No matter who you are, where you live and what you do you get a 24-hour cycle just like everyone else. One person may be wealthier than another, but that doesn't earn her a minute more in a 24 hour period than the poorest among us all. Discovering how to manage your time is part mental reorganization and part creating a system. It can be tempting to use interruptions as an excuse to postpone a project or task. Secretly we sometimes welcome the interlude.

How can you improve at following through on your commitments? Explore your Chances of Success Look at the commitments you've made in your life. What percentage were completed by the deadline - write down your answer between 0% and 100%. If it's not 100%, then what's the difference between those you kept and those you failed to keep? Your answer to this crucial question can change your life: When do you find it easier to break a commitment? What's the Common Denominator?

You do all kinds of things which are necessary in your life. Yet one thing remains common and that is your consciousness, a golden thread running through all your actions. Your body changes and your actions change, but you're there unchanged. When you change your context by increasing your awareness, improving your knowledge, and investigating your beliefs, your actions change yet your consciousness remains. Mistakes

Having chosen your most important question, see the previous articles in this series, there are some crucial related questions for you to answer. Actions have Consequences Are you prepared to pay the price? Your actions will provide the answer in due course, yet to ensure your future has some resemblance to your goals and dreams, the secret of success is to answer it now - in advance.

In these economic times, practically no one has the luxury anymore of joking “I can’t be broke – I still have checks left!” Managing your money is a necessity. Unfortunately, all of the information out about how to set up a budget almost always ignores the most important point: the purpose of the budget. Family budgeting has a purpose. That is either to stop or redirect spending, or to force savings. If your budget is not doing one of these two things, your budget isn’t really doing anything except increasing your stress. And no stress management system can fight against that.

There are many different symptoms of stress. Many of us focus only on the mental symptoms or feelings of being "stressed-out". But there are also many symptoms that are physical as well. This can become confusing because without the help of a doctor, it's difficult to know if the physical symptoms you are experiencing are caused by stress or something more serious.

Are you internally motivated? The Cherokee Indians say that everybody is, not just the self-motivated! They know that you have both a black wolf and a white wolf giving you internal motivation. Are you Self-Motivated? The self-motivated decide on their own goals and then pursue them. They see the black wolf's manipulations, its insistence on self-destructive actions and negative behaviours; they also hear to the white wolf quietly suggesting positive actions with beneficial results. Their secret of success is to make up their own minds, they listen and then choose their own path.r

According to Wikipedia, 'sadness' is a feeling of being alone or lonely, which can feel as a "severe pain related to sorrow", and which results from something negative happened to you. Sadness is when your mood is temporary lowered, whereas with depression you will have the same feelings but which are more 'chronic' (i.e. repeat on a regular basis). Are you feeling upset or sad right now? Or maybe you want to know what to do when someone upsets you as it happens to all of us now and then? Here are the 5 things you can do at those moments of your life:

Human flourishing involves the rational use of one’s individual human potentialities, including talents, abilities, and virtues in the pursuit of his freely and rationally chosen values and goals. ~ Edward W. Younkins The notion of living the good life can be traced back to the ancient Greek philosophers — to Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, and Epicurus. These ancient thinkers revered the concept of "eudaimonia," a classical Greek word commonly translated as happiness, well-being, or flourishing.

For over three centuries, the Chinese people have found in Feng Shui the source for of internal and exte al balance and harmony. We all are searching for a little harmony in our life. Today’s fast-paced life assails all our senses with demands and expectations. Stress, anxiety and tension accumulate as the ongoing demands of work and family, home and free time push us to the very brink. Pushed and pulled by the equally demanding expectations of boss and family. Driven to the

Why has President Obama Threatened War on Syria? Syria's president, Bashar al-Assad, has been murdering his own countrymen for years. A couple of years ago, some Syrians citizens objected and started the civil war in Syria. This has claimed a lot of innocent lives, yet al-Assad is clinging to power and has no intention of resigning. He's definitely a nasty piece of work.

Why is using a Stress Management Jou al a good idea for me? There are many reasons. One is that it gives you an outlet to write out your feelings, vent, and work out some conflicts on paper. You can write anything you want because nobody has to see it but you... unless you decide otherwise. Another reason that using a stress management jou al is great is that you can chronicle your stress.

Are they really a Master? Have they been through all the five steps to mastery themselves? Or are they just pretending? Do They Have the Wisdom of Experience? An author who has no experience lacks credibility, his articles have no authenticity. Yet his pretense of expertise is not necessarily very obvious; just like politicians, he may even seem convincing. Teenagers, the young just out of college, even university professors without any practical experience are in this category. The blind teaching the blind...

You probably never thought of workplace stress as being the paramount key to your career success. Most people and so-called experts want to emphasize people skills or technical skills or even how you interact with your boss. But without stress and chaos, you really have no opportunity to stand out from the crowd. Sure, you might have great technical skills. But your competition can get some training and catch up to you. And your superior people skills can be equalized by a seminar or intensive workshop. Some bosses really can tell the difference between co-operation and obsequiousness.

Stress is disorganized. It feels focused, unrelenting, and probably targeted right at you. But stress is not a thing. Stress is, in large part, the conflict you feel when your boundaries are being stretched. Stress in the workplace is your boss testing your boundary for autonomy. Or it could be you pushing your boundaries of experience and insight out from what they have been pigeonholed in for so long. You have a better chance of answering "How can I fight stress?" if you hit back at it with a plan.

"To change my life, I have to make a change in my life." This made so much sense to me when I first came across it! One of my goals was to change my life and, since you're reading this article, I guess it's one of yours too. My list was rather long, how about yours? You want life to become more desirable. Yet to change your life, you need to see change as a good thing! What do you want to change? Write down your List of Desirable Changes

The citizens of the USA - and of every country - need the Second Amendment's rights to protect themselves from rape and pillage by both government agents and common criminals. But who do you need more protection against? Which can inflict the most damage? Lone individuals or an out-of-control dictator or government?

The key to real success, as we saw in the previous article in this series, is neither what you have, nor what you do. So what is it? How much time have you invested in contemplating this crucial question? First Reflect on Your Answer If you haven't already come up with your answer then please do so, it could change your life. Your successful implementation of this secret of success can only be achieved once you have come up with your own answer. Read that article, and spend as much time as you need.

You disagree. Yet this exploration has found that there's nothing wrong in disagreeing with others, disagreement is entirely natural as well as very common. Although disagreements may be inevitable, understanding that they are not inherently irresolvable will change your life. The good news is that you can do lots to resolve each one. Willingness is the secret of success

The Problem of Prescriptive Solutions Management theory is clear, prescriptive solutions do not work. Why not? A solution imposed from outside stops you creating your own solution tailored to your circumstances. Since you are unique, different to everybody else, how can one size fit you and everybody else? Anyone suggesting they know the one and only best solution for a country the size of a continent with a quarter of a billion people and the world's largest GDP therefore makes no sense (often written as one word: nonsense).

The fundamental secret of success, as you saw in the previous article in this Secret of Success series, is your choice of what to be. Every time is different. There's no one answer or even a right answer to this crucial question. It's always: What am I this time? (I am, you are and he is form part of the verb: to be.) Another Secret of Success

The pressure and stress focused on increasing workplace productivity is getting to be almost unbearable: More companies are feeling that they have to be profitable at all costs, and that cost is usually your time and health. And usually that stress is compounded by the feeling that there is nothing you can do about it. There is something you can do, and it is can affect your personal specie directly

Along with other liberals, President Obama believes that more stringent gun laws will make it more difficult for criminals to obtain firearms. Although banning guns does make it more difficult for law-abiding citizens to own them, their beliefs just ignore reality: Criminals don't get their guns by following the law. Let's explore some of the more common misunderstandings held by gun ban advocates. Gun Bans would Stop Criminals obtaining Guns

Getting a good night's sleep is more important than we might realize. After all, scientists have calculated that we spend more than a third of our lives sleeping. With all that time spent in bed, why not make the most of it and get the best restful sleep possible? By using Feng Shui, you can do just that. Here are some great ways to make sure your next night in bed is one that's restorative and peaceful. Your Bedroom Needs Help It makes sense that when you're having trouble

Millions of people have lost their jobs in this economy so let's talk about managing the stress of a job search. Anyone who is in this situation, or loves someone who is, might consider these six suggestions…. Step One - Do not internalize a job loss or job search into your personal identity. Whether you are a new graduate or a semi-retired person whose 401K was cut in half this year, you are not in this situation because of your personal failure. The Bureau of Labor Statis

Dinner with a New Date Without being too obvious, I'd successfully checked out my suspicions. My brand new strategy had worked and my inner smile was vast! I was enjoying dinner with a new date and she seemed to be listening politely. But was she more interested in talking rather than hearing what I was saying? It wouldn't change my life, but I was excited, this was my first opportunity to use a new technique that I'd only just read about. So I said, "But enough of me talking about me, why don't you talk about me for a change."

The 2012 mass shooting at Sandy Hook, Connecticut has disturbing similarities to the 1999 Columbine High School mass shooting where two angry young men slaughtered a teacher and twelve students. Since all actions have both seen and unseen consequences, an effective response to reduce the incidence as well as mitigate the effects of such massacres needs careful consideration. Unseen repercussions can often make a situation drastically worse. Economists now know lots about moral hazard, for example. The Response to such Massacres

Great, you want to be a Master. But how do you achieve mastery? There's a big difference between authentic knowing and mastery, what is that difference, how do you bridge the gap? As with all the other steps, willingness to invest yet more effort is one secret of success in this last step to mastery.

WikiLeaks, headed by Julian Assange, has released a whole bunch of American government emails showing how America deceives the world. Is he really being hunted by the American oligarchy, with the active cooperation of British and Swedish authorities? Or are the allegations of sexual assault against him real?

Lawmakers in a number of states realize that disarming responsible citizens is an ineffective way of stopping shooting sprees by criminals and deranged individuals. They are now considering a far more intelligent response to massacres of the unarmed: How to terminate ineffective laws and regulations eliminating a teacher's right to protect his or her students. Harrold School District

There's a lot of talk about the oil cleansing method - especially among African Americans. Some ladies swear by it (usually those who just began using the technique). Others find that the side effects are just not worth it. What Is Oil Cleansing? Before getting into why you shouldn't bother with oil cleansing, here's a simple definition for what it is: Oil cleansing is a skin care method using natural oils to cleanse and balance the oils in the skin. It's based on the idea that oil dissolves oil. Common Oils Used & The Technique

As an adult, are you responsible for the circumstances of your life? Or someone else? It's comforting to believe that someone else is responsible, but is it true? Other people and situations have had some influence, large or small, but you are responsible. Why? Because you did whatever you did to get to your current situation, and you could have done something else. You're responsible! Furthermore, this is good news! In fact, it's outstandingly good news! Huh, I hear you ask, how come? Actions have Consequences

The Sandy Hook School Massacre The tragedy at Sandy Hook school in Newtown, Connecticut, where a lone gunman slaughtered 20 children and 7 adults, demands action - effective action. The burning question is how to prevent such slaughter in the future, without the law of unintended consequences making things worse.

We live in a fast paced world, and we all experience some degree of stress at times. Over the years, I have found that patients who are grateful deal more effectively with the stressors associated with living with chronic pain, which is pain that has lasted more than three months. Gratitude is the act of being appreciative of what we have rather than feeling bad about those things we don’t have. The positive attitude that patients with gratitude show is a positive asset in t

Do What Works, and Don't Do what Doesn't Work is easily comprehended and provides enormous guidance. But it doesn't tell you what to do, that's where you come in. You need to make that decision. Your job is to ascertain what works, and what doesn't work for you. Which means the secret of success is to know what you're aiming to achieve. Only with the end in mind can you determine what works to get there. Without a goal, if you don't know where you're going, then any road will do! Should you Listen to Others?

Great news for those rehabilitating from Cardiac related illness! And for everyone else! The BBC reported on a US study of 30 patients which found regular Tai Chi classes gave patients better movement and reduced BNP levels, a measure of heart failure. The British Heart Foundation said the study was "excellent news" and Tai Chi could be adopted into treatment programmes in the UK in the future.

First of all, no one, not decluttering gurus, best friends or anyone else can tell you what to get rid of and what is important to keep. Only you know the stories behind your possessions and how they affect you. There is no "should." You don’t have to get rid of anything. But, if you feel you need more space for your current life, you’ll feel better if you can let go of things. Here are some guidelines you can use:

The previous articles in this series explained how Portia Nelson's awesome poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties in overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Illustrations can be very helpful, so let's look at some conduct in the various chapters. Chapter One The primitive revenge cycle of killings by what can only be called socially unaware although often educated individuals. There are numerous ongoing cases in many societies, fortunately less prevalent in the West.

I know you’ve selected this article, because you want a 1-2-3 step formula for dealing with the jerk down the hall or in the next cube to make them permanently go away and possibly even like you for it. And you know it doesn’t exist, so don’t be irritated with me. I do have the solution, but it’s going to be less fun than you thought. You can opt for FUN and back space and find another article on the Internet, or you can fix this crappy situation right now. Right on. You’re still here. Okay. Here’s how this works: 1.

Do you know the symptoms of work burnout? If you are having new aches and pains or sleep disturbances, have you considered that your job may be the cause of this stress? You may have your own business, or work for a company, corporation or non-profit, or even do volunteer work. It doesn't matter. If you are the type of person who is not satisfied until the job is done properly to YOUR high standards in your time frame, you may be putting yourself in jeopardy of burnout.

Why are their Results so Different? "What makes the difference in the results they achieve?" asked the instructor. She'd told us to assume two identically trained and equally capable lawyers have set up shop in opposite corners of the same town's main intersection. The woman lawyer has a thriving business, whereas the man barely makes a living.

Is being cynical the best approach to life? Does it beat being either skeptical or gullible? Being cynical is a very negative way to approach your life. A cynic focuses on the problems rather than the benefits, sees what could go wrong and says no. He tends to reject things and experiences he doesn't know about in advance. You can change your life by seeing that, until you've experienced something, how can you know anything about it? So cynicism will steer you clear of what's new and exciting.

Is your word to be trusted? How much of the time can your promises be relied on? Perhaps your answer depend on who you make the promise to. For many people, giving your word to another person is more important than a commitment they make to themselves. They value the way other people see them, so they prefer not to let someone else down. Yet they don't mind letting themselves down! Let's look at the enormous value, the immense benefits you gain by keeping your word. Respect

Be Logical Our society teaches that it's right to be logical and, when dealing with the outside world, being logical is indeed very valuable. There's always at least one opposite, and logic deals very well with the opposite. You can change your life by investigating the possibilities and choosing the one that makes the most sense.

Breaking bad habits is simple but not easy. Just do what works! But you need to avoid the common mistake that gets most people doing what doesn't work to break a habit instead. Explore the difference as you find out why I kept stopping smoking, and see how to increase your personal power and change your life with this crucial distinction.

How would you like to find a method to drastically reduce your stress? One that is free (you already own all the equipment you need) and only takes a few minutes a day. And if this method not only helped you to relax but also increased your energy, improved your circulation and immune function, helped to deepen your sleep and gave you a greater feeling of physical and mental wellbeing, would you do it? rnIt has been proved that simply learning how to breathe correctly can hav

When life is tough is when your opportunity for growth is the greatest. If you were to help a caterpillar during his struggle in the cocoon, he would never have the strength to develop into a beautiful butterfly. When a fish spends its life in a tank, being fed regularly, it doesn’t grow as strong as if it were fending for itself. It is only through strain that a muscle will develop. Irritate an oyster enough and it will produce a pearl. Put a lump of coal under enough pres

Did you know that the simple act of humming has many health benefits? Did you know that according to recent reports, up to 14% of Americans suffer from painful sinus conditions which can be helped by humming? Did you know that humming spikes the nitric oxide in your nose and nasal cavities and the vibrations decrease the sinus blockages and inflammation? Did you know that according to research studies, you can get the benefits of humming whether you’re humming your favorite tune or a single note such as “Om” or “Ah”?

As you saw previously in this Inner Motivation series, everybody has both a negative and a positive side to their character. The Cherokee Indians say you have a black wolf strenuously promoting the negative, and your white wolf gently advocating the positive. Following the black wolf has arduous consequences, while the white wolf brings you more desirable circumstances. If Only ... In the past, how much time have you spent saying: "If only..."? As in: "If only this had happened," or: "If only I had done that?"

The first article explained how Portia Nelson's outstanding poem, Autobiography in Five Short Chapters, identifies some of the difficulties to overcoming challenges in life, which she calls holes in the sidewalk. Each situation you encounter can help you gain the inner power to overcome future challenges. The secret of success is to realize that life doesn't just give you personal power without effort, instead it brings you situations in which you can develop the personal power you need. And you can also decline and stay where you are.

Nearly everyone is complaining about having too much to do at work nowadays. The reasons may vary from ambitions and overcommitting to just being unable to say no to extra work – but the result is always the same: you end up at risk of not managing to do everything you had planned.rnExperts say that overworking is not sustainable in the long term for both the employer and the employee: its consequences range from simple tiredness to exhaustion and emotional burnout. So what

You have a Right to Protect Yourself Across the world, government bans on their people's right to protect themselves with firearms is increasingly widely ignored. The enormous outcry against the gun bans proposed by President Obama, Senator Dianne Feinstein and their Democratic allies demonstrates how such bad laws are widely seen as unjust.

Thoughts can be seen as one of two types. Thoughts that just appear, random ones you haven't chosen to think. And thoughts that you choose to think. The first are generally far more numerous. Normal thinking - random thoughts - bring the regular consequences which people experience much of the time. These consequences are often unforeseen with emotions, negative feelings, and you don't feel great! Think consciously rather than unconsciously

Most Problems are Caused by StressnnAgain and again you hear it: Problems are caused by stress. Doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, and alternate healing specialists all say the same thing: stress causes problems. Illness, obesity, sleeplessness, job burnout, marital breakups, family squabbles, fights with friends, loss of employment, depression, all have been linked to stress. What’s more, not only does stress cause these problems, but they in turn cause stress. Stress

Mind/Body Medicine, the relationship between what you think (and feel) and how your body reacts is an accepted concept nowadays even with most traditional doctors. When you see your doctor with high blood pressure, besides a pill, they will tell you to “de-stress”. But although many doctors see the relationship in other areas of medicine, it’s primarily ignored by doctors who tell you, "to lose weight all you have to do is eat less and exercise more".

The value of goals, of knowing where you're going, was discussed in article #5 in this Change my Life series. And most people start by wondering what they should do, what should they change. Change is vital because unless you make a change in your life, nothing will change in your life. You do need to change something, although a focus on changing what you're doing often misses a crucial point. The Vital Issue

President Obama's commitment to Peace President Obama evidently wants to bomb Syria. But why? He received the Nobel Peace Prize in 2009 for his commitment to world peace. His response this week to those who believe he wants to attack Syria in order to defend his own credibility? "I didn’t set a red line. The world set a red line." So Obama’s desire for war is not for his own credibility.

The following is from an article I wrote in February, 2010, which I am now able to post. It remains appropriate, so… On the list of little known holidays, some are rather important. During February, from the 10th to the 14th, we observe Cardiac Rehabilitation Week. This annual event is dedicated to the cardiac rehabilitation professionals and the patients they serve, to the goal of reducing the devastating effects of heart disease.

Politicians benefit by pretending life is unfair Life is not fair! complain envious citizens when they see someone with more than they have.

Australian jou alist Julian Assange believes he's the subject of a witch-hunt by the USA. Assange fears that submitting to the controversial Arrest Warrant issued by the fourth and latest Swedish prosecutor will lead to him being illegally extradited to America. He has been granted asylum by Ecuador in their embassy in Britain. Are the allegations of rape and sexual assault against Assange real? Is he being hunted by the American oligarchy, with the active cooperation of Britain and Sweden? What's the truth of the matter?

Does Banning guns solve the problem? Does banning guns work to eliminate people's violence. The UK experience is instructive. Now Britain enforces a near-total ban on guns, the Telegraph reports that: "The United Kingdom is the violent crime capital of Europe and has one of the highest rates of violence in the world, worse even tha America, according to the European Commission.*"

A shiny star. A treat for good behavior. A bonus in your paycheck. Ahhh…rewards. Why don’t we reward ourselves more often? We think of it for children. We think of it for our employees. We know the concept exists. We need to reward ourselves and we need to do this OFTEN. Take a piece of paper and make a list of ten rewards you could give yourself. This could range from a new book to a massage. To help you make your list, ask yourself these questions: • What would feel really good after exercising everyday for a week?

Along with most everyone, you want to be more successful. Yet success means different things to different people. The old adage suggests success is fame and fortune, and fame can indeed be seen as success. It's even been speculated that the man who vandalised Michelangelo's Pietà statue in 1972 saw notoriety as fame. He's spent some time in a mental hospital! Some see success in athletic or academic prowess, others in political or economic power. Success in carnal pursuits can be very tempting while beauty is also alluring.

Is President Obama Conce ed for your Safety? Is President Obama really conce ed about your children's safety, or do his actions contradict his rhetoric? Is he aiming to deny you your right to defend yourself and your children? Years ago, he did say he recognizes that "gun owners in America are highly responsible," relaxed regulations which prevented citizens from carrying loaded weapons in national parks and reversed a ban on transporting unloaded firearms in checked baggage by train. Obama confirms He Supports Gun Bans

Do you disagree with other people much of the time? This is not to ask if you're generally disagreeable, that's a separate question for some other point in time. The Negativity of Disagreements Whenever you find yourself disagreeing with what someone else is saying, or with one of their beliefs, you have several choices.

Do you want to improve the results you achieve? Better understanding of your subconscious motivation is crucial to reduce self-sabotage and change your life. The ability to make effective decisions makes a big difference! How to make effective decisions How do you make decisions with the wisdom to improve your life? The first step is usually to know your goal. As they say, "If you don't know where you're going, any road will do!"

Where do thoughts come from? Do you have control over what you think? Sometimes, yes, but not always. Thoughts can just spin round and round, ignoring your screams of enough! Some seem to arrive from nowhere, and some thoughts come from your beliefs. Change your Perspective What are beliefs? If you know something is true then you say "I know this is true" rather than just "I believe this is true." Which suggests a belief is something you hold to be true without evidence, an unsubstantiated perspective. Yet your beliefs influence your thoughts.

Did you know that a good belly laugh is good for you and simultaneously reduces your stress? Did you know that a recent University of Maryland study concluded that subjects who watched excerpts from a funny movie improved the blood flow to their hearts by 22 percent? Since your blood vessels dilate when you laugh, this research demonstrates that increasing your blood flow improves cardiovascular health. So laughing regularly is good for you!

You are right does not necessarily mean the person arguing is wrong! It just means they see things from another perspective! Each person's context is different, because their parents, education, religious upbringing, and experiences are different. Along with their acceptance of social attitudes, political indoctrination, falsifications, etc. as well as both their and others' mistakes...

Increasing workplace productivity is a major source of stress in the workplace. Management is under pressure to get more done in less time at less cost. Workers are under pressure to learn new technologies, or new procedures with out-dated technologies. The resulting stress can be crippling, physically and emotionally. There is a solution. Some experts recommend discussing this with management. This is good advice. However, their perception is usually that the less work you do, the more work they have to do. You need a creative solution to your problem.

Do Guns Kill - or Protect? If guns are responsible for killing people, then spoons are responsible for making people fat, and beds are responsible for women becoming pregnant. Such fallacious thinking may be behind fundamentalist Muslims insisting their women are covered from head to foot, so men are neither attracted nor tempted by their beauty. Although those in the western world like to think they know better, gun control fanatics nevertheless apply the same thinking to guns.

Americans are understandably determined that massacres such as the one at Sandy Hook school in Newtown, Connecticut, never happen again. But how? Some demand ever stricter control of firearms. Many others advocate more effective treatment of mentally ill people and understand that so-called gun-free zones simply disarm law-abiding victims. The long-term answer needs to take these and many different viewpoints into consideration. What does experience demonstrate to be both effective and ineffective in the USA? What does not work? What does? The Results of Banning Guns in Colorado

Stress minimization methods usually target emphasise mental and physical strategies yet seldom address food. But why do so few people know that the things you consume drastically affects how stressed you feel? Stress is felt by basically anyone; which means that there are generally a sizeable variety of stress reduction programs and techniques available for you to use. Unfortunately, a great many of these methods zero in on proactive mental relaxation, like meditation and EFT; on bodily stress alleviation, such as doing exercises; or on both, for example yoga and tension balls.

In the title, I indicate that you will be communicating with "Past Relatives." I wanted to use the phrase "Dead Relatives." In using that terminology however, I might bring up images of live individuals. Remember the old Archie Bunker series on television? Archie called his son-in-law, ...

Everyone experiences stress to a different degree. How does your day start? Does the alarm clock stress you awake before you get even more stressed over breakfast and getting their children ready for school? Then it is out into the big wide world to get your dose of stress from the traffic you have to deal with every morning. And then when you get to where your going, do you get even more stressed dealing with customers (or your boss) at work?

If you're a Tonic reader, rejoice! Positive, energetic people who are involved with the world around them may actually live longer. According to an article in Science Daily , a new study shows that "extroverts, and in particular those high "dispositional activity" or engagement in life, have dramatically lower levels of the inflammatory chemical interleukin 6 (IL-6). Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung defined extroverts as focused on the world around them and most happy when active

“Above all, do not lose your desire to walk. Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and walk away from every illness. I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.” ~Soren Kierkegaard

You argue when you both decide the other person is wrong. Two people are needed to argue, yet stopping an argument actually only requires one. You both insist you are right, which causes the argument. And from the viewpoint you each have on the issue, both of you are right. But are you effective? Remember, you may be very sincere, but your opinion can also be sincerely wrong! Explore Their Perspective

See a far more comprehensive introduction to the motivations behind this subject in part 1 and part 2 of this series. Does President Obama really want Peace? There are plenty of issues that President Obama could spend his time on which would improve America and give you a better quality of life. But he instead wants to go to war with Syria. Fortunately his plans are being upstaged by Russia and events in Britain and other countries. Would he like any Awkward Issues Buried and Forgotten?

So far we've covered several crucial secrets in this article series on the secret of success, now let's look at another. Your Three Aspects You have three aspects to your being. Intellectuality, emotionality, and your sensuality. Reason is your intellectual capacity, thinking, your head. Feeling is your emotional capacity, it comes from your heart. And lastly what can be called your sensuality includes artistic expression, intuition, fun, play, sex, and laughter.

You saw that there are four important questions which you can ask yourself as you make a decision. Those questions, from the first in this Most Important Question series, are: - Do I feel like doing it? - Do I want to do it? - Is it me? - Do I want the results that doing it will bring? Which one do you Generally Choose?

You're successful, you've worked long and hard to achieve your dreams. Money is no object, there's now more than enough to purchase more or less anything you want. You and your partner are enjoying a romantic dinner one evening and she suggests you should now build your dream house. She probably means to build her dream house, but no problem, you also will have some input - mostly financial! The secret of success is to be realistic, it will perhaps but not necessarily turn out to be more her creation than yours.

The only thing that stops a spree shooter is a bullet. The sooner he gets that bullet, the less innocents and vulnerable children he gets to slaughter. How long does Emergency Response Take? The police do a difficult job, often in very difficult circumstances. David Thweatt, Superintendent of the Harrold school district in Texas where teachers are armed, says:

Do you ever find yourself wondering: why did I do that? Something which produced such an unfavorable outcome that you feel a bit stupid? Why do we do such things? Are your thought processes so confused that you can't tell good consequences from bad ones? Or don't you know how to think things through in the first place? No, it's neither of these, it's self-sabotage! Your selfsabotage mechanism

Sandy Hook was a Gun Free Zone Despite Connecticut's gun carry laws at the time, there was nobody armed at Sandy Hook to protect the slaughtered children and teachers. In practice, Sandy Hook was a gun free zone. So was the 2012 Batman movie mass slaughter which killed 12 and injured 58 in Aurora, Colorado. The cinema company enforced their strict gun-free policy. The 2009 Fort Hood military base where 13 unarmed soldiers died was also a gun-free zone. It seems that politicians don't think soldiers can be trusted with guns.

Conventional methods of taming eczema have been tried by many. However, while there are many who who have tried conventional methods, there are just as many who are fed up with the so called traditional eczema treatments and the side effects associated with them, including myself. My daughter has suffered with eczema and the typical treatments did more harm than good. If you are seeking natural treatments for eczema, there are plenty of natural remedies for eczema available that you can find success with. You can try them alone or in conjunction with on another.

Stress Relief Expert Lauren E Miller Shares Top Three Things to Know Before Stressing Out. “According to The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health stress and anxiety is estimated to affect well over 19 millio Americans and growing.”

You always have a choice, they say. And they are right, you do have a choice, always! But not the one you think you have. Some people look at their possible responses, asking themselves how to react in the situation; should they do this, or that, or the other? Do you ever wonder how it will change your life? Yet some call this a life of Illusion. And in some ways it is, since the decisions you seem to make are part of the Illusion. This is rather a bold statement, so I'll type real slow to explain. You Do what You Think is Right

Definition of Stress: Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary defines Stress as a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation; a state of bodily or mental tension resulting from factors that tend to alter an existent equilibrium. People of all ages can experience stress. Adults, Teens, and Babies.

Conventional Knowledge The previous articles in this Personal Power series discussed some differences between the logic of the outer world and the intuition of the inner world. You've seen how something can be both right as well as wrong, rather than either right or wrong. This resembles the difference between conventional and unconventional knowledge. Conventional knowledge you put into words with your educated consciousness, one thought at a time. It's acquired from outside, learned in universities, no experience required!

In the article, Guns, Mental Illness and Newtown, the Wall Street journal* reports there were 18 random mass shootings in the 1980s, 54 in the 1990s, and 87 random mass shootings in the 2000s. In 2012, just one year not a whole decade, the Washington Post lists 14 cases of mass shootings. Are restrictive gun laws producing the desired effect? Or are the increasingly stringent gun bans worsening the number of massacres? What does the Increasing Slaughter Mean?

The good news is that stress doesn’t have to knock you out. Research shows that some people manage to be resilient to stress; others exhibit what scientists call “hardiness.” an ability to resist the ill effects of stress......Hafen et al, Mind-Body Health, p. 49 The Resiliency Lens Health psychology has a salutogenic perspective in its approach to helping people. A salutogenic approach to health explores the essential factors that contribute to well-being, maintaining heal

The present moment is here. It's what is. You may like it or you may hate it, but it is reality right now. There's nothing you can do this moment to change it, things are exactly the way they are. Which is not to say your response can't change things in the next second, or day, or next year. How do you Respond? Right now, you have two choices. No matter which you choose, it won't change the situation, although it can change your life. You can judge it as negative, which also stops you enjoying it. How can you enjoy anything when you're being negative?

Stress, our favourite thing in the world! Stress can ruin people. It plays a significant factor in causing many illnesses and generally lowers our quality of life. I was letting stress get to me too: in my field we have a lot of work to do by tight deadlines – a recipe for stress. As a result I was always worried or nervous about not being able to get things done or in time; it got to a point where I could never not think about work and how on earth I was meant to finish the

Sometimes it is so hard to get fired up to do what we know we really want to do. We get tired, life makes us weary, and we feel frustrated. So, it’s time to trick yourself. You must tell yourself thoughts that you may not even believe. You must put pictures into your mind to trick your brain and change your attitude. Let me explain. It can be really hard to stay on your chosen path sometimes.

Do Only What Works To achieve the results you want, you need to do what works and not to do what doesn't work. And it's your job to ascertain which is which! Once you know the difference you'll be more effective in achieving your goals.

There's joy in having what you want in life. But there are three essential steps to achieving what you want. Do you know and follow them all? Don't let Know Where become Nowhere One of the most important is to know where you're going. If you don't know where you're going, then any road will do. Ensure the "know where" does not turn into "nowhere." These three strategies are the secret of success in achieving any goal. Yet, although missing out any of them will sabotage your results, they're surprisingly not always followed. -

Your Approach to Life What's your approach to life? Do you first ensure that something is plausible? Are you generally gullible, cynical or skeptical? You can be gullible, say yes and accept something without question. You can be cynical, say no and reject it without checking it out. Or you can be skeptical: you'll change your life by withholding judgement until you've investigated the matter and have the necessary information and experience to make up your own mind. The Drawbacks

Despite the abundant evidence, democrats, socialists, and liberals continue to believe that even more stringent gun bans will stop the slaughter. How do the more intelligent and thoughtful ones maintain a straight face given the massive incontrovertible evidence to the contrary? In America, defensive gun uses - to deter criminal violence - occur around a hundred times more often than to commit crimes. Yet gun control advocates just ignore all the evidence proving that, in mass shootings, guns save lives. American Experiences

There’s a saying, “Of all the things I’ve lost, I miss my mind the most.” For me, of all the things I’ve lost, I miss my mind the LEAST. I often had a chatterbox mind; when I was unsettled, my busy mind was like a crazed acrobat, tumbling from thought to thought, leaping to conclusions. After my cancer diagnosis 4 years ago, a whole circus of crazed acrobats was unleashed in my mind! I felt highly motivated to calm those painful tumbling fears and imaginings. As a r

How To Change or Improve Something In Your Life – Now – With The Amazing ‘NLP’ Method! Anthony Robbins – Worlds #1 success coach and best-selling author confidently calls NLP – ‘an incredibly powerful tool’! Modern Psychology – Interestingly states that – ‘NLP maybe the most powerful vehicle for change in existence.’ Time Magazine – Reports that NLP is – ‘an all-purpose self-improvement program and technology.’ What is NLP?r

The USA incarcerates more people - imprisons more per head of population - than any other country in the world. So many in jail demonstrate the enormous numbers of laws which make criminals out of its citizens. These laws hamper police from carrying out their core responsibility of protecting citizens and their property. No matter what big government enthusiasts pretend, the evidence is clear: Governments have passed so many laws that in trying to do so much they've increased the difficulty of doing anything well. Then who suffers? You. Core Responsibilities

Note to Readers: Friendships cause much stress and anxiety for many tweens and teens. I found the middle school years to be particularly challenging for girls. Emotional bullying is everywhere and the lines of friendship are blurred by an effort to be popular or just plain old accepted! I love these positive statement put forth by Blair! Print this out and leave it on your daugters pillow… I know I am. By Blair Wagner, CPCC, ACC Resolution #1: I resolve to stand up for myself.

In a recent Wall Street journal article we’re told of the development of a new type of drug designed to battle biology. This pharmaceutical agent is growing in popularity for it assists sleep-deprived individuals to remain awake, less groggy and supposedly more productive. The desire for extended periods of rest is being overtaken by a zeal in our society to banish fatigue and maximize our capacity to get more done each day. Grade school students are introduced to the concept of time management at increasingly younger ages.

Here's a different way to look at our stress. What if we could see it as the stressed naughty child inside of us that clambers for our attention? Long ago this child was born inside us, often as a result of a difficult event in our little susceptible young minds. We might have matured as adults, but some part of us is stuck in the past, creating that pattern of thoughts, emotional tension and behaviour.

I play tennis about four times a week. One of the guys I play with, always starts the day by tossing the ball to make his serve and announcing, “Enjoy, gentlemen!” I usually reply with, “Thanks Jon. I’m rooting for you to come in second.” (Unless, of course, Jon is my doubles partner.) Our tennis pro once pointed out that, “Someone is happy with every shot.”

Hi, my name is Ali Sharifi and this is part two of a two part series on how to relieve stress at work and at home. If you missed part one, please see the link at the bottom of the article. So, in the last article, we had seen our "awful day" progress up until around 2pm. Lets see what happens the rest of the day. 3:30 PMrnYou find out that you were passed up for that promotion you had been working so hard to receive. Normal way – You are overwhelmed with feelings of depress

The effort you put into overcoming your self sabotage increases your personal power. If you allow the self sabotage mechanism to win, you feed it - which improves its inner strength and decreases yours. So whenever you just know you should do something, that's a great opportunity to increase your personal power. Take it!

Are you cautious about what other people want you to believe, do you take what they say with a large pinch of salt? The secret of success is to check out its viability, explore their motivation, and wonder if they're trying to mislead you before making up your mind. If it sounds too good to be true, then it usually is! Does what they say make any sense?

If you're busy and overwhelmed like most people you'll likely have some sort of to-do list going. It could be in the form of a notebook, a computer, mobile device or even heaven forbid a piece of paper. But some days looking at the list just makes me feel crazy. There is so many things to do that sometimes I get the feeling the list has "legs" of its own like a centipede. In others words the list seems to keep growing and growing without my help. In my experience at some point the list becomes an alligator... one that bites. So how do you get control of your to-do list?

Gun control advocates like to use the emotive sloga “gun violence.” Why? This misleading phrase is purpose designed to blur the distinction between self-defense and murder. Since "gun violence" takes no account of the difference between self-defense and a murderous attack, it increases confusion between the two. Hence it advances the gun ban agenda. Question: If the Sandy Hook principal had been armed and, instead of being murdered, had managed to shoot the deranged killer, would anyone say that the mentally disturbed killer was a victim of gun violence?

You can See Sense Once you realize how something fits together and makes sense, you say you see sense. And you actually do, you get the picture. You know it stands to reason since it has the ring of truth. When you get the picture, your context suddenly expands and that enlarged knowing brings an aha sense of satisfaction. Its authenticity gives you an experience of relief by reducing falsehood. Knowing when it's real will change your life, since reality brings the joy of knowing the truth.

Commitment can be seen as a muscle, a mental muscle. And just like physical muscles, the secret of success is to keep your mental muscles fit and toned. Keep fit Physically Physically, exercise keeps your muscles strong. Yes, I know that physical workout can be a pain. I've stopped asking my body if it wants to go to the gym, it always says no! But it gets easier once I tell myself that since I'm here I might as well work out properly. The shower afterwards is generally the most enjoyable part!

The Cherokee Indians say that everybody is internally motivated, as you saw in part one of this Inner Motivation series. They know that, along with everybody else, you have both a white wolf and a negative black wolf to provide internal guidance! Do you Just Know?

You’d think people’s lives would be less stressful in the technological age that we’re living in. The truth is that people have more stress now because of technology, family life, and their job. This stress can have a serious impact on their physical and mental health if they don’t do something about it soon. With all the recommendations on how to deal with stress, you might not have thought of oxygen bars before. They are a popular solution for dealing with stress in

Yet more strategies to improve your state and overcome a bad mood. Inspire a Good Mood in Another It only takes one person to initiate a bad mood which can then affect everyone around them. A single determined person may also inspire a good mood in others. You can change your life by inspiring another, which in turn helps inspire you - a virtuous circle.

New Years Resolutions, for most people, are forgotten quickly. Most of us have trouble following through with the promises we make to ourselves each year. However, there are ways to create stress-free New Years Resolutions that work. Why write Resolutions? When you write a New Years Resolution that you actually follow through on, you will accomplish two things. First, Resolutions force you to look at the things you want to change and requires you to set goals.

Do you have complete control over your mood? You like to think you're a positive person, yet some days do you find that you're just in a bad mood? My mother used to call this getting out of bed on the wrong side. Now I don't know that the side of the bed has anything to do with it, but bad moods do happen. If this can apply to you, then this series of articles will overcome your self sabotage.

What do you actually know? is the age-old question of philosophers and statesmen. A good answer, but not the only answer, is that you know what you have learned and experienced in the past. How can you know if you haven't learnt it, or remembered that experience? Which implies your mind only knows your previous events. Your regular, random, unrequested thoughts and emotions are based on the past. They're memories.

How do you Make Up your Mind? How do you make up your mind? Do you think things though for yourself? Or do you look at the person suggesting an idea, and ask yourself how well-known or how famous they are? Do you assume that their success in acting, or singing, or whatever makes them an instant expert in everything? Do you assume that becoming famous - or speaking convincingly - also makes them an expert in economics? Or do you check to see if they have both expertise and experience in the ideas they are promoting?

What are the different steps to mastery? How do you become a Master? Each step is different, yet they all require your time and energy, which is good news. Your efforts are not wasted - nature wastes nothing - they all increase your inner power. The Five Steps to Mastery The five steps to mastery and the secrets of success in moving to each next level are: - Ignorance. You start out knowing nothing about the subject. To move from ignorance to the next step - informed about it - you need to be willing to listen or read.

Stop Digging! Not doing what doesn't work is a fundamental secret of success. This focus on effectiveness is behind the simple aphorism: If you're in a hole, then the first thing to do is to stop digging. This is the natural law that many politicians in many countries just ignore, they run budget deficits year in and year out, and then wonder why their economies are in difficulty. It's simple to stay out of trouble, just stop digging - which means spend less than your income!

Are you suffering in pain? Is your pain long lasting or chronic? Do you lose sleep because your pain is so intense that you cannot easily drift off to sleep? Are you avoiding certain activities due to your pain? Is your pain negatively affecting your mood or emotional state? Would you like to know or learn how you can reduce or dissolve your chronic pain?

This Personal Power series has explored some crucial distinctions. You've seen how personal power grows rather than being increased from outside. That gaining experience is a big secret of success. Just knowing about something won't change your life. The lasting benefit you gain by investing your time and energy into a new perspective is an increase in your personal power. Your Unleashed Inner Wisdom

In this economy, the pressure is on for you to be productive. To do more with less. And to do it in less time. Be more efficient. Usually under rapidly changing, almost chaotic, conditions. This adds to the stress you are already feeling at work of just trying to get on with your career. And all of this involves being able to master your use of time as one of your stress relieving methods.

Illegal Drugs Increase Violence Illegal drugs have caused a significant increase in violence. In the years since Mexico, Honduras, El Salvador and Guatemala hardened their stance on illegal drugs, their violent death body counts have risen dramatically.

RELEASE SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS My New Year's Gift to You 100% of the people who book sessions with me are extremely competent people, most have responsible jobs or other responsible roles in life, yet the vast majority hold themselves back through negative thinking and limiting beliefs about their self-worth.

Do you understand the information you've been given, or are you just informed about it? There's a crucial difference between being informed about something - just knowing about it - and understanding it. Do you Just Have the Information?

If the cynical stance is not the best approach to life, then does being gullible give better results? Being gullible is the complete opposite of cynicism. Here you're very positive about what might happen in the future. You may not know much if anything about it, but you subscribe to the view that people are generally good, they won't do anything to harm you. Being gullible will certainly get you into some exciting situations, but can have adverse rather than beneficial consequences. Do Politicians Take Advantage of the Gullible?

Should government stop citizens protecting themselves from criminals? What would be the consequences? Yet this question misses the crucial point: If government carried out their fundamental job of protecting citizens properly, then citizens wouldn't need to protect themselves. The need for you to protect yourself demonstrates the real problem: Government failure - the failure of politicians and bureaucrats to carry out their fundamental duty. Governments have arrogated so many tasks that they seem incapable of doing many if any of them effectively.

Stress awareness month always confused me. Aren’t we always hyperaware of how stressed we are? What we may not realize is how stress affects us. The Price of Stress When we are stressed our limbic brain takes over, shutting down all body systems which do not help us fight or flee danger. Our digestive, reproductive and immune systems are turned off momentarily to move all our power and energy to our muscles to run or defend ourselves. Once the immediate danger is over, our systems revert back to normal functioning.

The other day, I started to write a letter to myself to read when I reach the age of 90. Let me explain a little about writing a letter to myself…. My parents are both ninety years old. I have been observing them for quite awhile. I have also observed other older people including my grandmother who lived until age 95. I am always interested in watching people and observing their actions, and often times I try to figure out why they do what they do. As you would expect, most of the time I come to the conclusion that I have no idea why people do what they do.

When the bills start piling up and creditors start calling, you might want to crawl under a rock until your circumstances improve. Unfortunately, ignoring the problem by leaving mail laying around unopened and letting the answering machine screen incoming calls will only make your situation worse. Putting off addressing financial issues costs you more money in interest and finance charges while robbing you of your peace of mind.nnYou could wait to win the lottery or pray for

You've seen that the first step to mastery is to be willing to listen to the information. Without taking advantage of other people's expertise, you would have to rediscover their insights for yourself. Education is one of the secrets of success, it can be seen as the process of listening and learning from others. How much Energy have You Given It?

Tough times can bring you to your knees. They can also raise you to new heights. You can be stressed to the max on a bad day, yet, as long as life seems manageable, you don’t usually look for new strategies to get through it. The tendency is to pull yourself up by the bootstraps, grit your teeth and keep on going. During prolonged or sudden tough times, though, normal defense mechanisms are not enough to keep you from feeling vulnerable and overwhelmed.

What gives you joy? How do you take your attention away from feeling unhappy? What do you enjoy doing? Which activities give you a rush, or maybe even just get you to smile inside? When you have an urgent need to get out of a bad mood, how do you stop your self sabotage? Anything which works to got you out of a bad mood can be used to lighten your mood, it could even change your life .

Stress Relief Expert Lauren E. Miller Offers Three Grab-and-Go Stress Solutions for Busy People Published: Tuesday, 9 Aug 2011 | 8:30 AM ET The American Psychological Association says stress costs corporations $300 billion a year in absences, medical costs, lost productivity and turnover. But this doesn't have to happen.

Life is filled with distractions that can take your focus off the tasks you need to accomplish and time management is a struggle for many. While it is a difficult skill to master for many, time management is simply managing the time you have allotted to you while on this earth. You can manage your time wisely or squander it away. While it would seem to be a simple choice, it's not always that easy. Your Time and Mine Every human being on the planet is afforded the same 24 hours in a day.

Trying to lose weight during the holidays can be very stressful and difficult at best! Christmas and Winter Holidays are the season of over-eating, over-indulging and generalized gluttony! And we have that built-in excuse to over-eat: It's the holiday! However, there's a payback in the form of weight gain, discomfort and disappointment with yourself for over eating, yet again. Why do you have to eat PAST your comfort level? Sure the food is good, but is it BETTER when you eat copious amounts of it? Is too much better than enough?

If you are following this Personal Power series, and have experienced the increase in inner power possible, then you've already seen the big advantage of changing your perspective. Recognize the Source of Personal Power When you come across a fundamental truth, something within you immediately recognises it without losing a single moment. When you feel the inner power of truth, when you come close to truth, you immediately appreciate it without argument. You don't have to accept or believe it, you recognise it in your being.

Our emotions play an integral part in our lives whether it is home and hearth, work, or our business life. If our emotions are out of whack, then the rest of our lives will be out of whack too. This can weigh on your life in many ways, including making us look older, feel older, and go through our days weighted down with the problems of the world. The way to let go of some of this is to give yourself an emotional facelift.

Your Approach to Life But what's the alte ative to being gullible or being cynical? Ask yourself if an idea, or their suggestions, are plausible. Become a skeptic, be skeptical! There's a lot of misunderstanding about skeptics and cynics. Although many don't comprehend the difference, they are not at all the same.

Another powerful concept Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor provided in her TEDx Talk is the concept that we are feeling creatures who think. We are not thinking people who feel, yet this is what our society believes and values – which is at the heart of many of our issues.

Why Make the Effort? Why spend the time to come up with bad mood strategies to get yourself into a good mood in the first place? You're busy doing what you're doing and such pre-emptive planning can take a significant amount of time and energy.

The Business Problem. Business, municipal and non-profit organizations all experience costs associated with turnover. Every position within an organization is expensive to replace, but the cost can be significant when considering a highly skilled technical employee, or astronomical should the ...

The Doorway Technique, based on the idea that obstacles can be seen as doorways if viewed in the right way, is a simple and powerful stress-reduction, emotional-release and problem-solving tool. After a particularly stressful day at work a few years ago, I sat on my bed and did cathartic writing to release some pent up emotions. I can’t remember what problem I was trying to overcome, but I know that I wasn’t satisfied with the “catharsis.” I felt that I had only taken

Even though I am still reeling from my son’s death, things still must get done – taxes, money stuff, work, prosecution stuff… Here’s what’s been working for me: 1. Have grief sessions every morning and/or evening. Just a time to let whatever you are feeling out – through music, jou aling, art. Letting it out every day, makes it easier the rest of the day. 2. Only choose 3 things that have to be done. On some days, just 1.

What is the Goal? How effective are you in reaching your goals? If you're not as effective as you'd like to be, these life strategies are for you. Have you decided what your goals and dreams are, how will their achievement look to you? If you haven't decided on your goal, how can you determine whether or not your actions will get you there? Some but not all actions are effective. Yet all actions have consequences, and some consequences are more desirable than others. The secret of success is clarity on your goal so you can recognize it once you've achieved it.

As the economy and employers emerge from recession, those still employed are typically doing their own job plus at least part of another. When the productivity of overworked employees begins to falter, employers find they not only need to hire additional workers, but also attend to the well-being of those they have. Corporate wellness is once again popular.

It is so comforting to see a joyful person who always wears a smile on his face. The same person is happy and content, and lives his live to the fullest. Here are some benefits you can drive from being happy. Happiness Reduces Stress You may say that it’s just that those people who are less stressed or know how to manage stress are much more happier. Stress can affect us in so many ways. Some researchers measured how happy students in one university were, and then stressed

The need to learn how to manage stress is becoming more important due to the fast pace and increasing responsibilities in our daily lives. Both home and work seem to be placing additional demands upon us that do NOT come with any additional time with which to meet them. The result quite understandably is that many are left feeling overwhelmed and in need developing ways to relieve stress as a result of these mounting pressures. One of the best way to control stress before it

There are always 3 strategies you can use to tackle any stressful situation: Problem Perception Physiology Usually you might only think about trying to “change the problem”, and if you can’t do that then you might think you have to just put up with it. This framework shows you that there is a lot more you can control than you think. Here are two examples, first from a new client of mine who’s starting a company and second, from a participant at one of my speeches to a NY financial company who’s getting piled on at work.

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Stress Management . Stress Management is the skills, methods, and techniques involving in managing and reducing stress either a day-to-day basis or on a long term scale. Barbara Schiffman is the Official Guide to Stress Management .nn Stress Management: A Comprehensive Guide to Wellness , by Edward A. Charlesworth and Ronald G. Nathan, is a valuable resource for people interested in Stress Management , and it is av

You want what you want, which you get by using the three tools of creation: Thought, Word and Deed (action). The more power in each one, the more it helps you achieve your goals. The more you desire, the more you need your Word to contribute to its achievement. So increase the power of your Thought, the power of your Word, and the power of your Deed. The secret of success is to improve the power in your Word. Increasing the power in your Thoughts and Deeds will be explored another time. Your Word is a Promise

The way you see things, you know you are right. And that's true, you are indeed right from your perspective. But when someone disagrees with you, they see things differently, and from their viewpoint they are also right. But how can two contradictory things both be right? Simple! Here's how to change your life... Business Card Take a business card printed on one side only. Show the blank side to the person sitting opposite you. Ask them to describe exactly what they see, rather than what they know, and they'll say the card is blank.

In this article, I will be discussing brain entrainment, stress and stress management, and how you can train your mind to remain calm and focused with the use of our binaural beats download. Google trends show that these tools are becoming increasingly popular in the self help market, and it is my aim to convince you of their power and effectiveness in inducing mind relaxation. Modern life is replete with frustrations and hassles, so much so that its ceaseless web of stress a

Most of us experience tension daily, often it's hour by hour or worse minute to minute. How we cope with stress and worry determines whether we move forward or allow it to hold us back. Habitual negative thinking is often frenzied, inaccurate, and undependable, yet you can go through your entire life with negative thoughts that cause unproductive behavior and a more difficult life. Most people dealing with stress especially chronic stress assume that there's no getting around it, and its just the way life has to be. But this is certainly not the case!

Tom Wright We only have relationships to what we are not. We don't ever have a relationship to what we are. How can we? Because when we are being something, we are that, and that's it. There is no separation, and when there is no separation, there can be no relationship to anything. In this example, there's nothing else to have a relationship to because there's nothing outside of ourselves. By way of another example, take our anger. When we are our anger, we can't have a rel

Making the right choices is a crucial secret of success in life. But how do you make the decisions you make? How do You Make your Choices? Some people muddle through without a viable strategy to give them the results they want. Then they're surprised when those results don't show up in their life. Is there a viable strategy for making a choice which helps you achieve your goals? If so, what is it? What a valuable investigation!

Did you know that according to recent studies and surveys by the Centers for Disease Control, the United States Census Bureau, and the National Institutes of Health, stress and stress burnout have been called America’s number one health challenge? Did you know that a 2013 study by the American Institute of Stress revealed that 77% of Americans reported regularly experiencing physical symptoms caused by stress, and 73% reported regularly experiencing psychological symptoms caused by stress?

Stress comes in countless forms, and for many, is a constant, nagging companion that weighs us down, blinding us to the brilliant beauty all around us, sapping our strength and energy, and leaving us feeling tired, frustrated, anxious and dull. Stress keeps us from fully enjoying the present, from appreciating the past and from looking forward to the future. Stress wreaks havoc with our emotions, our health and our relationships. Stress keeps us operating at just a small frac

Life is difficult. What an awesome start to psychiatrist Dr. Scott Peck's seminal book, The Road Less Travelled. So Much to Learn! Life is also complex, so much to learn and so many rules to follow. There are so many laws and regulations on the books in America it's been said that, reading eight hours a day every day without a break for your whole life, it's impossible to read them all!

Acne can be an embarrassing condition and while many think acne is a "teen disease", evidence has show that it affects teenagers and adults. If your skin is acne prone, changing your diet can help to the condition. There are common myths about what actually causes acne but one of the biggest is that acne is caused by drinking soda or eating too much candy.

In simple words, your mental health has a strong impact on everything in your life. From your emotional wellbeing to physical wellbeing, mental health will affect your entire body. This is why it is crucial for you to prioritize your mental health just as you do your physical health. Despite much awareness, still millions of people are afraid to confess about depression and anxiety disorders with the fear of being cut off from society. This is why, experts believe, the 500 mi

There are many symptoms that sufferers experience when they are dealing with stress, too many to go into detail here. One symptom common among many sufferers is the continual replaying of events from the past. Today, let's look at a new stress relief technique I have created that will really help with stress and anxiety and will also be helpful for people who are suffering from depression. To repeatedly replay past experiences is such a hurtful habit to indulge in. It involve

Everywhere you look, someone is offering stress management tips. And most of them are all the same. But have you ever thought about whether these tips are good or bad? Whether they actually work or are just parroting what someone wrote? Whether they will actually relieve the stress in your life or make it worse? Here are the top 5 worst tips on stress management usually seen on the web:r

Stress makes us lose perspective, while inspirational quotes can help us get it back. So here are a few quotes to keep around when the going gets rough... When you're going through hell, keep going. -- Winston Churchill When you don't see where you're going, when you don't think you can stand it one second more, if you only keep putting one foot in front of the other, chances are, you'll come out on the other side. Either that, or you come across a road sign that will point

The other night, I was reflecting on some of the lessons I have been learning/reading about in Wayne Dyer’s “You’ll See it When You Believe it.” (It’s amazing to me that his book was written over 20 years ago and the content in it is EXTREMELY applicable to life- even today!) What’s been hitting home is… One of the secrets to manifesting (and also a fundamental principle of abundance) is to focus on what you have. I knew this principle on an intellectual level, but I realized I wasn’t applying it in my life.

People are spending more and more time at the "office," dealing with workplace stress . We work insane hours in high stress, thankless environments. There is a certain rush of energy that comes with this type of work, but that soon fades into a sort of mental exhaustion and in some cases, depression. This isn't limited to office workers either. Whatever your line of work, when you focus exclusively on it, you're bound to create many problems in your life. If you are blessed w

What we resist, persists. As humans, we naturally want to avoid pain, and that includes our feelings. Trying to push the emotions away, or using substances like food or alcohol, work for a little while. Then the emotion is worse than ever. While understandable, this simply doesn't work. Instead, I advise you to purposely face the emotion, lean into it, and really get to know it. Follow the six steps below. And like magic, it's gone. rn#1. Close your eyes and get as physically comfortable as possible.

If money or your economic circumstances are getting you down, then start by realizing that, in Dan Hannan's succinct phrase: You cannot spend your way out of recession or borrow your way out of debt.* This applies to governments just as it does to companies and individuals. Of course, governments also reduce your wealth not just with taxes, but also by depreciating the value of your money: this is general inflation, nowadays euphemistically and misleadingly called quantitive easing!

This Personal Power series started by simplifying the complexity of life and seeing that there's no free lunch. Just as you don't benefit by delegating your exercise, you can't change your life by delegating your thinking. Personal power is crucial, it enables you to produce desirable results with less time and effort. You find it easier to manage your internal world. Yet the self sabotage mechanism loses influence when you increase your ability to overcome its deceit and manipulation. So the way to decrease your self sabotage is to increase your inner power.

Worry is something we all do at sometime or other. Stop WorryingIt’s probably unrealistic to stop worrying completely, but there are ways to prevent worry really taking hold and seriously affecting your life. I must confess that I’ve always been a bit of a worrier. Worrying over every little thing brought a great deal of stress and anxiety into my life. Over time this energy sapping habit took a heavy toll on me. For that simple reason, I was desperate to learn some effec

In our fast-paced, multi-tasking, on-the-go-deadline driven work, we are often caught up in the act of “Doing.” We move from task to task on our to-do list. We rush from work to class to home. We keep pushing ourselves to do more and do it better. from type a to type me: how to stop doing life and start living itBut what is the cost? Do you have hobbies? Do you have passions? Or have you lost who you are to all of the things you are doing outside of yourself? Do you sleep well at night? Are you fit? Do you feel good in your body? What is your blood pressure?

You are able to be positive and trust your own qualities. All you are supposed to do is to physically eliminate the confidence killers as they do not belong to a community with positive thoughts. Plenty of us go through such harsh moments in life because of the trust we assume. 1.Everything or nothing. The way you acknowledge a situation is the main cause you are not being pleased with the little achievements you obtain in life. That doesn't represent a barrier that separat

Stress Management What is stress?rnEvery person has experienced stress in some form or other and many writers have defined stress in different ways. Some definitions have gained recognition while others are still been passionately debated, avidly argued and aggressively defended. Stress, if not ... Stress Management What is stress? Every person has experienced stress in some form or other and many writers have defined stress in different ways. Some definitions have gained rec

Do you need ‘The Lunch Break Challenge’? Do you often feel tired and lethargic in the afte oons? Do you feel resentful towards your employer or your organization, or your clients? If you answered yes to any of these questions, the lunch break challenge is for you…. Firstly, you must commit to a lunch hour every day of the week for the next two weeks. Your lunch hour is to consist of exercise, relaxation and healthy food.

So you’ve been trying to eat right and to work out every day for the past four months. But you still can’t lose those last 10 pounds. You always try to be creative and diligent at work but your company is still going bankrupt. You always seek to spread as much love and positivity into the world, but they’re still people shooting other people who don’t share the same skin color or the same ideologies as them. And so, you find yourself losing your hair to frustration an

Stress – we all feel it on a daily basis, in varying degrees. Some days are much worse than others, while other days, you might even go so far as to say you're relaxed. But in truth, stress is the norm more than we'd like it to be. And while we might never be completely stress free, we certainly don’t need to be stressed out every day. With Feng Shui, you can begin to lighten the load of stress in your life – all by changing the flow of energy in your life. This way, you can

Do you have difficulty expressing your anger? Are you unable to say no? Are you suffering from a constant need to prove yourself or to do it all? Do you often feel tired and burned out? If so, you are probably experiencing the symptoms of stress.nnStress left unattended will lead to burnout. Aren’t you tired of living an unhealthy lifestyle?nnWe all have different sources of stress and different ways of handling those stressors. First, what is a stressor? This is different

Since we know that most disease and illness is either caused or made worse by stress, addressing stress can help reduce symptoms. There is a simple acupressure approach called the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that is proven to help reduce stress, pain and other symptoms of illness with no side effects.

People employ their own unique techniques to cope with stress- an almost inevitable part of present day life. Although stress management works better, stress reduction can also help a lot by breaking down the vicious cycle of stress and related mental and physiological responses that has gripped one’s life. Some people use unhealthy means to cope with stress. Alcoholism, smoking, frequent use of anxiety pills, oversleeping and social seclusion may all work, but only tempora

In today's environment, economic stress and job stress is on everyone's mind. Although stress can come at you in many forms both physical and mental, our bodies respond similarly to both types by increasing the use of and need for magnesium to manage the stress. Here are 10 things you need to know about magnesium nutrition that will help you manage stress.nn Stress expert Andrea Rosanoff Ph.D. talks about how you can protect yourself from stress and/or alleviate it and live a

Are you usually feeling stressed? Managing stress is a thing you do on a regular basis, though when it starts to have a harmful effect on your body and mind, it means that you are distressed. What many individuals don't understand is that stress is a state of being that in fact negatively impacts our bodies. The effects of stress have a heavier impact on our system than most of us fully understand. Facts About Stress and Your Body rnThere are some scary facts about the toll t

Q: Dear Susie. Over the past year I am feeling so much more stressed, impatient, and I'm always exhausted. I'm often cranky to be around. (And it's not much fun from the inside, either.) Could it be my hormones? How can I tell if it is? A: Wow. You've touched on an important realm. It sounds from your question as thoug

Holidays are the best time of the year filled with parties, celebrations, gifts, food, family, and friends. Or are they?

“That’s life!” says my grandma whilst she is watching sad or upsetting movies. “That’s life!!” she says when she is watching TV programs where everyone is shouting at each other whilst trying to work out who is the father of the newbo baby. Yes, this might be ‘Life’ for many people, but your life doesn’trnhave to involve as much drama as you see in those movies and TV programs. Generally the way that most things happen in your day to day life is of your own making.

True or false: Every now and then, you in your role as salesperson will meet someone who simply won't buy what you are selling. Well, obviously, that's true, right? I mean, no one has a 100% sales record. Because even though you have taken all the top-notch sales training courses and the best sales presentation training, your potential customers haven't. So all your sales tips and techniques won't work on someone who simply doesn't want to buy.

Do you feel stressed out? Well, you are not alone. The World Health Organization states that stress is reaching epidemic proportions. Whether it is financial conce s, pressures at work or feeling like you have too many responsibilities, being stressed out is becoming familiar territory for many of us. How do you know that you are under too much stress? If you feel frazzled at the end of the day, are tired most of the time or you jump from crises to crises and are worn out - then you may be living with an unhealthy amount of stress. Too much stress makes it difficult to relax.

“Now that I am trying to change, I don’t like who I am.” At some point, many of my clients say this or something similar. When they finally see a new way to be, but are not yet capable of acting that way, they begin to attack themselves. judges gavel“I am a horrible person.” “Being this way is bad.” “It is wrong to act like this.” These thoughts are natural, but not helpful. There are some very simple ways to begin accepting who you are so you can move into who you want to be. See the Truth

With high levels of stress running rampant in our society, it's more important than ever to learn ways to relax. In order to do this, it is helpful to understand what's going on physically and emotionally during periods of high stress. When a person is in a calm and relaxed state, the "firing" of neurons in the brain is minimal. When a threat is perceived however, be it real or imagined, it is relayed from the sensory cortex of the brain through the hypothalamus to the brain stem. This causes the brain to begin firing neurons in the brain, particularly adrenaline.

Do you feel like your inner light is very dark? Do you feel like you're ready to implode with the stress of your adversity? Know that you're not alone, especially in this time of a global financial shift. Many others are experiencing the same kind of adversity that you are - right now. That doesn't make the adversity miraculously disappear, but it can give you a sense of support and community that will help you overcome this adversity and regain strength and hope.nnn Understa

by Barry Roberts During last night's State of the Union Address, President Obama said, "Innovation doesn't just change our lives, it is how we make our living." Innovation in today's marketplace is vital for success. This is something I believe in, something I teach and speak about. With that in mind I ofer you this brief overview:

Someone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? <G> Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as life-or-death, or do-or-die situations. They put so much energy into their worries that there is none available for progress. Some even believe that worrying demonstrates caring. This is misguided, too. The use you make of your energy

Effectiveness at work means more than just checking off all the items on your “To Do” list. It means getting along with your co-workers, interacting with management, and keeping clients or customers satisfied. It requires all of your talents, skills and abilities. And the quickest way to disrupt this is to be under stress. The greater the stress, the more disrupted you are. The more disrupted you are, the less effective you are.

IN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK nnBy Pauline Wallin, Ph.DnClinical PsychologistnAuthor, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior"nnIn the weeks and perhaps months to come, the world will be on edge as events unfold in the Middle East and the United Nations. In the USA citizens have been put on "terrorist alert" with instructions to buy duct tape and plastic sheeting to protect themselves. I don't know about you, but it

Stress. Stress creeps into all parts of our lives when we let it. We can even be stressed when we're happy. But when we're sad, stress seems magnified like our lives are moving in slides on the big screen. And stress will kick us when we're down. If we're sad, depressed, anxious, angry, or worried, it seems ten times more difficult to get past the stressful events in our lives. Little things can blow up and seemingly take on a life of their own. They take on our lives and even try to take them over. And the big things? Well, we might as well just give up. Right? Maybe for a moment.

For many Americans the goal of traveling to dream destinations is high on their bucket list of activities to complete during their lifetimes. Did you know that according to a recent study 74% of Americans surveyed cited traveling to a dream destination as their #1 goal for the New Year? Did you know that according to a 2014 study by Road and Travel magazine a majority of Americans cited Hawaii as their dream beach destination?

by Barry Roberts “Now that’s a funny cartoon!” As soon as that thought struck me, I’d cut it out and paste it into a notebook I was keeping. After a time, I started writing in any and all funny experiences I’d gone through. Once in a while, I’d specifically try to recall humorous episodes from earlier in my life and add those, too. My book was growing and this was fun, my new “hobby”; keeping a humor journal.

Embracing change can be difficult. Along with everyone else, you like being right and you think that change means you must have been wrong. Are You Wrong? But is this true? Are the only choices right and wrong? What is an improvement, becoming more right? Recognize the secret of success - you can't improve anything without changing it. A wise man once said: "To grow is to progress is to change."

If you've discovered your perfect career, you may still come across stress at work from time to time, all because of the simple reason that everything in life doesn't always go according to plan. It doesn't matter if you're fighting work stress constantly or just every now and again, there are some efficient techniques you can use to alleviate it. Having knowledge of healthy ways to release your stress and even how to prevent a stressful reaction in the first place is importa

Conflict is a good motivator to address problems and to seek solutions for unresolved issues. It is a good warning sign that an area of your life, or your personality may need attention. However, if you sweep the warning signals under the carpet or ignore the motivation to confront and resolve issues, you can become susceptible to stress related symptoms such as head and neck tension, pain, allergies, digestive problems, heart disease and the list goes on.

Is stress keeping you awake at night? It may be your pounding heart. Or perhaps your thoughts are racing through your head. No matter. You're tossing and turning, and it doesn't help that you know that come morning, things are going to be even worse if you won't get any sleep. What to do? Stress can cause a range of physical and emotional symptoms, but one of the most insidious effects of stress is its tendency to rob your sleep. The reason that's so bad is that we simply ca

Your life is full of moments of choice. You can respond to each moment based on old patterns, old stories, (conscious or unconscious) or you can choose to react from a new place based on freedom from the past. You can make new choices that make you feel alive and free. It's your choice.

Managing stress doesn't require too much from you. Your life is a lot easier than you think; just use this technique and you'll see: Learn about what stresses the world out. Why? It will help you put things in perspective. Well, what exactly should you do? Simple. Before you continue reading, just think about all the tragic things happening in this world right now. You know, things like war, famine, poverty and crime. People face such problems like this everyday. So, what's

In the past year nearly 45 millio Americans have suffered from so- called "anxiety disorders", including anxiety and panic attacks, as well as phobias. That's a lot of people—more than 15% of the U.S. population. And it's a lot of suffering. Anxiety leaves people chronically miserable. A severe panic attack leaves people in cold sweat terror dreading they are dying.

Do you know that most people are breathing barely enough to be alive? Most people breathe in a shallow manner, just bringing the breath barely into the chest. We have been conditioned to hold in our stomachs,and to wear tight clothing, inhibiting our ability to breathe fully. Have you watched a new baby breathing? The baby's belly rises with the inhaleand falls gently with the exhale. It's kind of like watching the ocean waves rising and falling in a natural rhythm. There is

While everyone reacts to situations differently, some of the biggest causes of stress today are common among a lot of us. But the truth is, even though these things are labeled as "causes of stress" the only thing that can actually cause your stress is YOU. Your belief system will dictate what types of things create a stress response within you.

Every year on December 31st, people all over the world make New Year’s resolutions. Millions of people wake up thinking, “This is the day I am going to do things differently!” They yearn for a new beginning and hate themselves when, after a few weeks their resolutions fail. Why do they fail? Because in trying to bring about change in their lives, people reach for the only tool they think they have: willpower, forcing themselves to change. Most often, unfortunately, the will fights back…and wins.

Panic is probably the most terrifying symptom of an anxiety attack. The tightness in chest with anxiety sometimes feels like a heart attack. But fixing just the tightness won't remove the anxiety. You could take an aspirin or painkiller. You could meditate or take deep breaths. You could exercise. These may lessen the pain. But it will probably return, if the anxiety is not eliminated.

Running a stress-free business seems to be something of a fantasy on the surface, but if you really delve into the idea, you will find out that it is completely possible to run a stress-free home business. A lot of this has to do with your own personality, needs, habits, and reactions to situations. If you are a high stress person it will take practice to run a stress-free business, but you can do it. If you are laid back and the type of person to avoid stress, you may find yourself not running a business at all, but simply avoiding it.

What do you spend most of your time thinking about? I bet you don't even know, or maybe you've never given it much thought. Big Mistake. You have about 60,000 thought per day and 95% of your thoughts are repeated, and what's worse is 4 out of 5 of those thoughts are negative. Your thoughts are influenced by peers, world views, culture, the media religion and social expectation. They determine 95% of the emotions you experience every day. Most of our thoughts are automatic and habitual and control your pain, pleasure belief and values.

Our fast paced lives leave many of us seeking stress relief, a more relaxed, peaceful state of mind. We yearn for a "quiet mind" free of the jumbled unrelated thoughts that characterize our normal state of awareness and we seek the benefits of a more focused, creative mind in our daily work. Students come to me seeking stress relief from the practice of meditation, which is the practice of quieting the mind. The practice of meditation is difficult and time consuming for many

All too often, people put the care and well-being of everyone else ahead of their own. When you spend all of your time on others and none on yourself, you become energetically depleted, stressed out, even physically ill or dis-eased. These are messages from your body telling you to take time out to care for yourself. In order to be able to give all that you do to your friends, family, and employer, it is necessary for you to take time every day to do something for you. Here a

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and time management have nothing to do with one another. But many of us who are natural born clutters develop negative thinking patterns because we become exasperated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative attitude then makes it more difficult to control our feelings and move forward.

Here is a series of simple, quick, and affordable indulgences to nhelp you slow down and enjoy this season of beauty and transition. nn* Welcome spring. Whether or not the temperatures are beginning to nwarm in your part of the world, take a walk, paying particular nattention to the little signs that a new season is on its way. nn* Stop by your local cosmetics counter for a sample of a nfresh floral perfume. nn* Browse the library or online bookstores for a "beach book," nan

We know that living in the 21st century can be similar to sitting on a rollercoaster zooming along at an incredibly frantic pace. It can be a challenging task to pull on the brakes and slow the rollercoaster down, refuel it, and attend to its maintenance, so it can run at its optimum level. Work deadlines, budgets, IR laws and regulations along with stiff competition can attribute to the speed and the intensity that keeps a person on their rollercoaster.